Sleeping in Separate Bedrooms - How to Handle This

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I am a sensitive sleeper that takes a while to drop and really triggered by any “human” noise due to childhood issue, sharing the room with my parents until aged 18, then leaving home altogether. DP just hits the pillow and falls asleep breathing loudly in early stages, a bit of random snoring, twitching etc.

This has now become an emotional issue for me, I either have go to bed early and feel the pressure to fall asleep which does not work. Or toss and turn late into the night, then leave for spare bedroom anyway. It’s just two of us now, I have slept with earplugs for years but now the bedroom is free and I just want to sleep separate.

I am worried about what impact this will have, on a decent night it’s lovely to wake up together in the morning. It just feels like a break up.

Any advice for those who have transitioned to separate sleeping is welcome, from how to talk about it etc.

Just be direct and kind about it. I found the perimenopause insomnia was the last straw. Make sure your do knows you don’t want to sleep apart but can’t think of any better way to get the rest you desperately need.

Try and pick a few nights a week when you can be together- once you’re better rested and/or can squeeze in a lie in or a weekend nap.

I'm confident in my ability to compete with the competition

I love sleeping in separate beds. We are much nicer to each other when we've had a decent night's sleep. He grunts, snores, flicks his arms around, I get too hot and want the window open, I snore. It's just not a good set up.

My kids have double beds to themselves, I don't know why we insist on sleeping together. Separate bed chambers

I’m about to get married, and we sleep in separate rooms. He’s in his early 60s and snores like a trucker, I’m 54, and my night sweats could solve the drought in California. Honestly, I love stretching out in my own bed at night without being serenaded by his nasal symphony. In the morning, we meet up for coffee like roommates who really like each other. It’s perfect. And seriously, don’t stress— you’d be surprised how many couples are living the dream with separate bedrooms these days!

We slept separately for a while during illness. It was nice sliding into his bed for a cuddle in the morning or he coming into mine.

DH and I have separate bedrooms. I shared bed with him for the first 14 years of our marriage/togetherness but just couldn't stand the snoring any longer. It ruined my sleep and turned me into a very grumpy morning person.

He wasn't happy about it. I guess felt I was rejecting him. But I insisted and he soon got used to it and we just love having our own rooms. It's actually very romantic! Sleep really well, both of us, and are happy as beans in the mornings.

My room is exactly as I want it. Flowers, dressing table laid out with all my precious little things, smells lovely and is quiet and tranquil. His room is more masculine with his man things.

Our intimacy increased and I think the secret to a long happy marriage is having your own space! Together nearly 40 years.

Yep separate rooms in the week because he gets up very early and goes to bed very late. Together at weekends.

We have separate rooms , he snores is up early and likes to watch tv in bed - I’m up an down overnight dealing with active stoma and also soaking with night sweats so it is the right thing for us. We have separate bathrooms too - perfect