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Was this rape/SA

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Newcex · 03/04/2024 02:05

A while ago I was having a drink with friends. My partner was away for 6 months at this time and a few of us were at a friend's house. One of my partners friends were there and said he would take me home as he hadn't been drinking that evening. I remember leaving the house and then nothing. Next thing I remember is waking up in his bed and he was touching me removing my clothes etc. I don't know what he'd done before this point. I remember knowing what was about to happen but not been able to stop it (if that makes sense)and asking him to wear a condom. I went to sleep afterwards and then went home in the morning. This was never mentioned again after even though we still seen each other around other people etc. I've not seen him for years now and I have never told anyone what happened. I don't think I'd ever report to police as I was so drunk and It's my word against his but I know i 100% didnt willingly have sex with this man. I really trusted him to get me home safe. I just don't know what to think

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Andthereyougo · 03/04/2024 02:28

I think as you were very drunk you couldn’t consent. As he was sober he knew you were too drunk to consent. Could he have spiked a drink?
Also if he was supposed to be driving you home why did he take you to his home?
I’d say 100% planned rape as you were incapable of consenting.
I’m really sorry this happened to you. You can phone rape crisis if you need to talk irl.

Orangesandlemons82 · 03/04/2024 02:41

Yes, absolutely rape and not too late to report it. Do you think he possibly spiked your drink to incapacitate you?

Mayflower282 · 03/04/2024 03:59

Sometimes drugs can show up in hair strands. Have you got long hair? I would report it.

ForestBather · 03/04/2024 04:43

You weren't able to consent, it was rape. So sorry OP.

Northernsouloldies · 03/04/2024 04:50

He's a very dangerous man he saw an opportunity to be alone with a vulnerable woman and committed rape .

Copperoliverbear · 03/04/2024 07:56

He raped you and probably spiked you, you should report it, he's probably still doing it to people. He didn't drink for a reason he's a predator.

Newcex · 03/04/2024 07:58

Thanks for the replies. This happened 16 years ago so would be nothing to show up in hair etc. At the time I actually thought I'd cheated on my partner and felt disgusted with myself for years. Only over the past few years when things like this have happened on TV shows etc I've thought ....thats what happened to me and maybe I am not to blame

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