Friend taking dog to vets for the last time tomorrow

[Happyboom]

What can I do?

He's a single man who's had a hard life by any standards. His dogs are absolutely everything to him. This one has been poorly for a few weeks and it's now time to let her go.

We're not especially close friends and I don't know if anyone else is looking out for him. I'm aware of the situation because I had trouble contacting him over something and he told me what had been going on, otherwise I wouldn't know.

So, I don't want to intrude or overstep, but do feel "someone" should be looking out for him.

What can I do? The appointment is late tomorrow afternoon, I'll be at work, but can be around in the evening.

Maybe just check in with him - by text or whatever you would normally use. He might not want company or a big fuss (I don't know!) but a check in to let him know you're thinking of him and are sorry might be appreciated.

I had a friend who did this when one of my relationships ended - he checked in by text for a couple of weeks in the aftermath (I'm not suggesting you do it that much) but I have never forgotten his kindness. We rarely had conversations, often it was just 'are you ok?' and I would reply but it meant a lot that someone cared.

Yes, but a "you know where we are" text always seems so inadequate and no one ever takes you up on it.

I think if you acknowledge his loss and how much his dogs mean to him, it won’t seem like empty words.
Ending it but telling him you are there if he needs anything at all, and following up a day or two after by checking in will let him know you care .

You sound lovely x

Agree with @DrunkenElephant It doesn't have to be a one off. Follow up and don't leave the ball in his court. But also he may not want to discuss it at the moment, so just getting a message may be plenty for him.

It's hard to know what people need in upsetting situations and they often don't know themselves.