What would you think?

[BurtTheDurt]

DH and I went away last week for our first anniversary. Before we left a family member gave us a card and told us not to open it until our anniversary day and reiterated twice that we must make sure we bring it with us on holiday. We did so and when we opened it it was a nice card that just said ‘happy anniversary have a lovely day’.

Would you have assumed that this card contained money? We weren’t expecting money (does anyone on an anniversary?) but it was just sort of implied as the family member insisted we take it with us, I guess I assumed it was some euros to buy a drink on them.

I’m not fussed about it just honestly wondered what others would think?

Is that person a joker? Very odd to say that and not have some type of gift/etc - have you checked the envelope carefully as there may be a voucher in there or they could have forgotten IMO

I’d message and say thanks for the card. Most people don’t remember anniversaries (including my dh) so I’d thank them. Wouldn’t occur that there was anything but a card tbh.

Even though I think remembering an anniversar is not as important as remembering, say, a birthday, given their emphasis I'd have presumed a gift of some sort and possibly to do with the holiday. It's weird that they made a big deal of a card but maybe to them it was a big deal.

Maybe they intended to put money in the card, then forgot, then forgot that they forgot, so told you to open it on holiday?

We saw them yesterday so we said thank you. It was a very close family member so they would’ve remembered

No not a joker, a pretty serious person! I didn’t occur to me that they intended to and had forgotten. I won’t bring it up to them as it doesn’t matter

I wouldn't have expected money, no. I would have thought it was just a card they didn't want to give us prior to the actual anniversary.

I wouldn't have expected money. I'd have thought the "only open it on the actual date" instruction was a little odd, and I'd have been surprised that anyone else remembered our anniversary at all (let alone cared to buy a card).

I'm glad I have helped. In my culture we these days put money into wedding cards and I, we get paranoid about this, ie possibly for forgetting to put money in or too little

IMO, it was a voucher/gift

Good luck

ps - we've given wedding cards and I've actually forgot to put our name in the card - it was one of my nephews weddings and the other siblings decided we would all put in 700 each
It was only when about to hand over the card in the rush of the weeding just as people entered the wedding recdtion I noted the card was light - I explained and I'd left the money on our bed. A voucher, a few 50 pounds notes, easily forget if put in there or not

for that reason there was supposed to be something in there but they forgot, IMO

I wouldn't say so. I was brought up that it was bad luck to open birthday and anniversary cards before the actual date. So it could be that.

Is the person an older relative OP?

The reason I ask, is that my mum (and relatives of her generation... over 75s) always say things like this when they give cards. My mum even went so far as to write on the back 'DO NOT OPEN UNTIL 'X' DATE'.

Always makes me smile, thinking how special they feel this 'date' is to go to the trouble of reiterating it. I think it's a sweet thing to do 🥰

Yes they are coming up to that age! I’ve not really been given these instructions before so I wasn’t to know but makes sense!

Fair enough but I'm standing by my previous posts.