People who had a Disney parent, how did affect you and what's your relationship like with your parent now?

[Marssuri]

Just that really!

What's a Disney parent

One who sweeps in and flashes cash or does the fun stuff (like Disney) without any of the hard graft such as discipline, homework, and organising.

I assume you mean a parent that has no substance but swoops in and buys things and takes you places as and when it suits them, is quite performative, but is otherwise largely absent from actual parenting ?
I don’t think it negatively affected me because my other parent wasn’t a Disney parent and being bought things and taken places is nice as a child. But Disney parent and I have virtually no relationship now.

Yes!
Sorry, should have clarified in in my OP

Yah, I assumed it meant a parent or parents obsessed with the Disney franchise.

My Dad used to dress up like Jaffar and now I have a fear of parrots.

Never had a Disney parent but am interested in this

exDP is a Disney parent. DC1 likes spending time with me but not so keen with exDP. The relationship just is not so close. DC2 has always been closer to me and I'm not entirely sure in their relationship with their dad.

My father would appear every year or two and take me out or take me away for a bit. I loved it at the time. As an adult, I have zero respect for him and we aren't close. He never contributed towards my living costs, refused to have his name on my birth certificate so he wouldn't be chased for CMS (don't know if that's how it works, but that's the reasoning).

There was no such thing as a Disney parent when I was a kid!

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This is the funniest thing I have ever read

Mine was a sort of Disney Dad - rarely saw us (as in max 3 times a year from ages 6-12 and then not at all), only did when it suited him, and sent child maintenance when and if he decided he should. And it wasn't a lot.

He would be Super Fun Dad when we saw him. He lived a child-free, alternate life, group of hippy friends. Everybody was nice and we would do fun things. I was a total daddy's girl.

BUT

It was ALL on his terms. I realised this at around age 12 and confronted him (in a letter, he didn't live nearby). He was brutal in his response.

I have seen him twice since then, last time 25 years ago. I have no contact, need no contact and have no respect for him.

He was very badly physically abused at boarding school and I suspect he was sexually abused too. I can see it impacted him and I feel for him as a person. As a father though he wasn't and isn't worthy of respect.

Kids need to have a secure base. Disney Dad is ok, but ultimately they can't keep the show up all the time and it is a show. It becomes hollow.

My ex is now being Disney Dad with our kids and it breaks me to know the hollowness that is one day going to be discovered by our kids. All I can do is say that I'm ALWAYS here NO MATRER WHAT and mean it.

My dad was a Disney dad. We seen him regularly 1 or 2 nights per week plus an evening after school. He took us fun places, bought us things, got take aways. Sometimes take us surprise weekend trips often with a friend each. It was amazing. Until I got older and realised he had never so much a brushed our hair or washed a pair of pj's.

I fell away from him late teens early 20s when I started to realise that he used my mum as the default parent so he could swoop in and be the favourite.

Once I has my own children and seen how hard the boring bits were the last bit of respect slipped away. I was angry for a long time but then accepted there was no point in holding the anger.

We now have a very superficial relationship where I visit with the kids a few times a year am treated to a fancy lunch we talk like you would to a friend of a friend then I go home. When he's elderly I won't be providing any care.

I will help my mum until her last day. She took all the shit side of the stick and honestly I believe he only had us to much to annoy her.

Funnily he pays pocket money into my kids bank accounts weekly a stupid amount for their ages. Just chucking money at them to buy their love. They like him but love Grandma who looks after them regularly and takes them to the park.