Should I go to the wedding?

[Marssuri]

I really want to go but don't want to regret.
My husband is leaving the UK next Saturday to move abroad for a year. Because of circumstances, we will likely not be able to see each other at all during that time (at the exception of facetimes and phone calls of course). So this is our last full week together for a year.

My cousin is getting married on Sunday. My parents and siblings are all going and I've been invited too. My husband isn't invited as it's a childfree wedding and he has his son with him.
The wedding is quite far so I'd have to go with my family on Saturday and come back on Monday.
That's 3 days out of the week.

Should I stay or should I go? I really want to attend.

[Zonder]

Why won't you be able to see him for a year? Can't you travel or he come home?

I'd go to the wedding and then arrange to see him in a couple of months.

[Zonder]

Actually can't he go with you for the three days but do something with his son during the wedding?

[Nothingandnobody]

How far is quite far? Is it in the same country as you? If it is, then it's unlikely to need 3 days and could potentially be done in a day.

It also doesn't sound great to not see each other for a year. Even complete opposite sides of the world should be doable for at least one visit surely?

[LadyTiredWinterBottom2]

Is he off to Afghan or similar?

[sleepyscientist]

Will your cousin not allow the son considering the circumstances?

[concernedchild]

Go. Why on earth would you be okay with him leaving for a year, unless he's being deployed?

[Marssuri]

I can't say why exactly as it would be very outing, but he'd need an authorisation to come back and was told it was very unlikely to be granted.

The wedding is in the same country but I'd be going with my family and they want to stay for a couple mote days as it's very far for them. They'd drop me off halfway

[Marssuri]

@sleepyscientist

Will your cousin not allow the son considering the circumstances?

Frankly no, they already have a set number of guests too and I don't want to be cheeky or create any problems with other family members who have kids

[concernedchild]

@Marssuri

I can't say why exactly as it would be very outing, but he'd need an authorisation to come back and was told it was very unlikely to be granted.

The wedding is in the same country but I'd be going with my family and they want to stay for a couple mote days as it's very far for them. They'd drop me off halfway

This doesn't make any sense.

I'm assuming he's some sort of high up dignitary or the like. Go to the wedding

[Nothingandnobody]

@Marssuri

I can't say why exactly as it would be very outing, but he'd need an authorisation to come back and was told it was very unlikely to be granted.

The wedding is in the same country but I'd be going with my family and they want to stay for a couple mote days as it's very far for them. They'd drop me off halfway

Can't you make your own way to the wedding?

Also, if he won't get permission to travel for a year, could you visit him?

[Marssuri]

@Zonder

Actually can't he go with you for the three days but do something with his son during the wedding?

It's not really feasible. We would all be staying at my grandparents, plus family politics - them coming with us and not attend the wedding would make things very awkward. (I'm from a culture where weddings are really big and child friendly so it wasn't really seen very fondly)

[Ponderingwindow]

My answer depends on if your husband will also be unable to see his son during this year abroad.

if he can’t see his son, let them have a few days together uninterrupted and go to the wedding.

if his son is moving with him, then skip the wedding.

[Marssuri]

@Ponderingwindow

My answer depends on if your husband will also be unable to see his son during this year abroad.

if he can’t see his son, let them have a few days together uninterrupted and go to the wedding.

if his son is moving with him, then skip the wedding.

Okay, thank you 🙏

[Zonder]

I'm from a culture where weddings are really big and child friendly so it wasn't really seen very fondly

Seems nobody told your cousin this.

[MurderousCheekbones]

Well it depends, if you've accepted the invitation it would be really rude to not turn up at the last minute.

This is going to read harshly but I don't mean it that way - what difference does another day make if you won't see him for a year?