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Unfair at work

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Nicetobenice67 · 29/03/2024 06:39

Where I work most of my colleagues are friends or family to my boss.I have worked at this place for 20 years my boss 4 years ....all the nice tasks are given to her friends and family I'm one of the 'out casts' so get all the shit it's unfair and I don't know what to do I don't want to leave as my hours and holidays suit me ...HELP

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vanillawaffle · 29/03/2024 06:40

You'll have to put up with it or leave unfortunately.

DinnaeFashYersel · 29/03/2024 06:42

It's a like it or lump it situation.

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Nicetobenice67 · 29/03/2024 06:49

It's unprofessional if I took it higher do you think I could get somewhere

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Nicetobenice67 · 29/03/2024 06:52

vanillawaffle · 29/03/2024 06:40

You'll have to put up with it or leave unfortunately.

I am getting to the stage that I will probably leave ..tbh I'm one of the best workers there that's coming from a boss that doesn't like me im a grafter never have time off but it counts for FA

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PilatesPeach · 29/03/2024 07:34

I don't think you take it higher unless 1. You have asked your boss directly if you can have some of the other (nice) duties and 2. you are prepared for your working life to get worse and feel more uncomfortable as this is the kind of thing that often happens, especially in a small cliquey firm like yours.
Lots of things unfair - my work has had no pay rise for 20 years but it won't change as that is the entire industry - and we have to make decisions about we will and won't put up with. Hours and days etc is a big factor for most people. Do you answer the phone or have to talk to colleagues? If not, can you listen to an audiobook or radio on bluetooth earphones whilst you work?

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Nicetobenice67 · 29/03/2024 08:04

PilatesPeach · 29/03/2024 07:34

I don't think you take it higher unless 1. You have asked your boss directly if you can have some of the other (nice) duties and 2. you are prepared for your working life to get worse and feel more uncomfortable as this is the kind of thing that often happens, especially in a small cliquey firm like yours.
Lots of things unfair - my work has had no pay rise for 20 years but it won't change as that is the entire industry - and we have to make decisions about we will and won't put up with. Hours and days etc is a big factor for most people. Do you answer the phone or have to talk to colleagues? If not, can you listen to an audiobook or radio on bluetooth earphones whilst you work?

That's a great idea I can wear headphones and switch off I guess thanks for your reply ..I will try wearing headphones today or part of the day don't want to completely cut ppl off but a few hours may just make things easier...guess this is work life

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Nicetobenice67 · 29/03/2024 08:06

I only work part time so I guess I should just suck it up ..it pays the bills ....anyone else work where its very family oriented

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CrappyBarbara · 29/03/2024 08:11

Nicetobenice67 · 29/03/2024 06:49

It's unprofessional if I took it higher do you think I could get somewhere

Take it higher where? If there’s a “big boss” at the company he or she may be open to making some changes in the name of employee morale. But if you’re talking about some kind of external or legal authority you have no case. You are being treated unfairly but nothing you’ve described is illegal (unless there’s a lot more to the story).

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Nicetobenice67 · 29/03/2024 08:25

CrappyBarbara · 29/03/2024 08:11

Take it higher where? If there’s a “big boss” at the company he or she may be open to making some changes in the name of employee morale. But if you’re talking about some kind of external or legal authority you have no case. You are being treated unfairly but nothing you’ve described is illegal (unless there’s a lot more to the story).

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Oh know nothing illegal just unfair

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Nicetobenice67 · 29/03/2024 08:27

I guess I just need to speak to my boss he may be understanding and make things fairer

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familyissues12345 · 29/03/2024 08:30

I think I'd say something, but be prepared to not like the answer and leave - that's if you're happy to.

I've recently worked somewhere where I was treated differently, I raised it and my boss made excuse after excuse. So I decided I needed to maybe value myself if she didn't. I now have a new job where I feel appreciated and part of a team!

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Nicetobenice67 · 29/03/2024 09:03

familyissues12345 · 29/03/2024 08:30

I think I'd say something, but be prepared to not like the answer and leave - that's if you're happy to.

I've recently worked somewhere where I was treated differently, I raised it and my boss made excuse after excuse. So I decided I needed to maybe value myself if she didn't. I now have a new job where I feel appreciated and part of a team!

Awww I'm so happy for you ...maybe I need to value myself too I'm such a hard worker never have time off don't want to blow my own trumpet but I'm good but I'm totally unappreciated..it worries me if I leave will I regret it as I have good hours unless I stick it out to find that job guess something will come up ...thanks for your reply

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