Student daughter staying in Premier Inn type hotel alone

[oaksandsycamores]

University student daughter (18yo) has a very part-time work thing which means going on her own to various towns at least two hours from her uni, often finishing the work at around 7pm or 8pm and so she'll need to stay in a Premier Inn or similar in the towns/small cities and get herself some dinner. They're not places she knows. She's fine with it.

Is this ok for a girl on her own.

I'm mindful of the risks out there to young women.

Yes. She's an adult. Let her be.

Of course it’s fine? Assuming she isn’t going to leave her door wide open and unlocked?

Of course it’s ok, she’s an adult, and it also sounds like she’s living away at uni anyway, she doesn’t even need to have told you this.

Is her work covering the hotel/dinner cost? If not I’d just be wondering if it’s worth it rather than getting the train home?

Of course it's OK it has been a long time since grown women have needed a chaperone to be allowed out

Get her one of those door stoppers.They fit all doors and block opening from the outside.

Yes, why wouldn't it be?

I go away for work on my own and stay at these places. I go and have some dinner and fiddle with my phone, then go to my room, lock the door, and watch rubbish tv.

There are no more risks than when I do anything else. The biggest risks being the crushing boredom and very uninspiring menus.

It’s fine.

I think your imagination may be running away with you.

Of course it's fine.

Of course! Look how many 2omen her age move away for uni, travel the world back packing etc. She is an adult!

How could this not be okay?

Shes a fully grown adult.
She could go travelling around Asia with a backpack on her own if she wanted.

Don't get those. They are dangerous in a fire. A fire is probably more likely than a room invasion. Unlikely though!

And besides OP, even if you decide it's not ok, what are you going to do about it? Ban her from doing it? If you did, if I was her, I'd ignore you and do it anyway.

By the way, the last couple of times I have stayed in a Premier Inn, the staff have gone out of their way to NOT mention my room number out loud while I was checking in. They hand you a card with the number written on it.

Very security-conscious and sensible idea, so that if there is anyone near you when you are checking in, they don't know what your room number is.

It seems a very low risk thing to do, I'm not sure why you think it might not be. But why can't she get back to her uni city if she finishes work in the evening? Just thinking of the cost.

Of course! Premier Inns are good, safe hotels. All good life experience for her.

Last time I stayed alone in one of those hotels they were very discreet when they gave me the key, so that people around didn't hear. The staff have training to be aware of stuff like this. You can only make her aware of the dangers (without scaring her!) and then trust her to keep her wits about her.

Time to let go, OP.

Yes but is that financially savvy

I would be more concerned about exactly what this very part time job is and how it pays sufficient for her to afford to stay overnight (unless the company pays for the overnight stays).

I understand your reservation. I would be nervous too
However if she's comfortable then nothing you can do. Equip her with insight and knowledge not to tell a stranger there on her own,room number etc

Does her job psy for these hotels? Can imagine a few hours work as a student bring enough to make monet and cover a hotel?

There are smoke alarms and fire alarms in UK hotels.

Yes the job pays for the hotel and it is all very legit. Don't want to go into details as it's "outing" maybe.

Sounds like I'm fussing and she'll be absolutely fine.

It is nice that you are worried about her, but she is an adult.

When I was 18 I was living and working abroad alone, travelling all over the place on my own and generally causing my parents lots of worry (but I didn't worry because I felt like an adult).

As long as she isn't silly (e.g. meeting someone in a pub/restaurant or at work and telling them she's staying in a hotel alone...) she'll be absolutely fine - and likely would be fine even if she was a bit silly.

Fine, you can flick the lock so people can’t barge in even with a key card. You can also take a wine up to your room.