After a bad night would you send into school / nursery?

[Weneedourstars]

I don’t mean if ill but just if a bad night happens for whatever reason. I sent ds into preschool but feel dh thinks I was harsh and should have let him stay home.

Yes absolutely. If nothing else to give yourself a break

Depends if they seem okay in the morning or if I had to go to work or not. If they are obviously tired and grumpy and I didn't need the child care then probably not.

Yes I do

How much will the child get out of the day? Will it benefit them being there? Or will they be exhausted and cranky all day? Your child, the staff and other kids will pay the price.

Yes. Bad night or not, we still have to work. And once they are school age especially, they tend to perk right up once they're in school with their friends. Much more so than when lying around here moaning about how bored they are and that there are no snacks in the house.

Usually. If they seem OK, certainly. And if I needed to work.

Is your DH offering to look after a grumpy toddler?

What do you mean by a bad night?

Was your dh volunteering to stay home with a tired preschooler after a 'bad night' then?

In fairness it was an exceptionally bad night. But my concern was at home he’d either nap or be so out of sorts and grumpy it would be unpleasant for everyone. Preschool is only 3 hours and I did tell him to tell his teachers if he wanted to come home. Just feel a bit guilty.

Was your husband planning on taking the day off to look after them?

Unless they are ill, why would you keep them off?

Depends on the night. If it was very bad lots of time awake and grumpy in the morning I wouldn’t and I don’t. If it’s a disrupted night say maybe one or two short wake ups I just let nursery know and encourage them to call me if they need me, they’ve always been very good. (Youngest child)
my eldest is in school and I do sometimes keep him home for a bad night but it’s a completely different scenario as he has SEN and a good night still involves multiple wake ups, so a bad night is barely any sleep and he can’t regulate.
You know your child best, and I’m not judging you at all, but for us in our house an exceptionally bad night would probably be a home day if it was clear they aren’t going to get anything out of the day at school/preschool.

I think up to about age 5, I'd consider it for a very bad night if I didn't need to go to work the next day. From about 5-8 it would have to have been extremely bad (eg huge nosebleed, only a couple of hours' sleep).

As another poster said, I look at it from the point of view of the child. If they're too tired to learn and they're going to be grumpy then there's no point in making the teacher deal with it.

Once they're over 8 or so then I think they can cope better with tiredness.

It's the same with illness (ie a heavy cold, not vomiting, when I obviously would keep them off). A young child with a cold isn't going to learn much and is just spreading it around, so I'd be quicker to keep them off than an older child who could handle it better.

Depends on what I’m doing. If I was working, I’d probably send them in. If I was staying at home, I’d have kept them with me.

Everytime. Mollycoddling does no favours

Depends on how bad the night was and how the child would be. Most children will happily power through as they will be entertained and busy for those hours.

It really depends. I couldn’t really take a day off work just because my child had had a restless night and unless they were actually sick, having to work trumps a child who is just gonna have a tired and grumpy day.
Generally speaking, the person stating that someone is being harsh for letting a child go in to school/nursery when they have just had a wakeful night, is not the person being expected to answer to their employer….ie they are not the default parent…..just saying….