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DH gets convinced he will come down with lurgy in run up to every holiday - argh!

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HAfrustration · 25/03/2024 18:40

Just wanted to vent and see if anyone else has a DH who has some mild health anxiety. It’s got worse since Covid, he won’t leave the house without hand sanitiser, if someone sneezes in the shop or even on the street he will immediately swerve to avoid them, etc etc…

So every time we have something nice booked he gets convinced in the week or so leading up to it that he’s going to catch something from school (where he works) and it’ll ruin the holiday. We’re flying at the weekend and so it’s started today: They’re dropping like flies at work / Colleague was standing over me and coughing / if I get diarrhoea there is no way I’m flying / I know I’m going to catch it and then we’ll have to cancel the holiday.

It’s exhausting listening to it, what can I say / do?

The annoying irony is that last time, he was right - he got a positive Covid test on the last day of term, we had to cancel our plans as he was really unwell 😅

But surely lightning won’t strike twice?!

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Wheresthescissors · 25/03/2024 18:42

He sounds anxious. I've been sick in every holiday I've had in the past year, except for one. It does happen!
Just stop listening

Aquamarine1029 · 25/03/2024 18:46

Tell him to keep this nonsense to himself. If he needs help in dealing with health anxiety, he needs to take the initiative and do so, but it is totally unreasonable of him to ruin everything for you. There is only so much anyone can take.

Kpo58 · 25/03/2024 19:06

Every time he comes up with that nonsense, just say breezily 'Don't worry love, that's why we have holiday insurance' and then ignore him.

mrsdineen2 · 25/03/2024 19:08

I get that to be honest. We had two Christmases in a row ruined by covid. I couldn't relax and enjoy the third one until I was actually eating my Christmas dinner with no covid symptoms.

I live a relatively normal life, but it's hard work to switch off after two plus years of doom and fear-mongering - being repeatedly told that your sniffle or tickly throat could kill your relative takes its toll.

thistimelastweek · 25/03/2024 19:08

Be prepared to go without him.

Then go.

HAfrustration · 26/03/2024 08:43

Kpo58 · 25/03/2024 19:06

Every time he comes up with that nonsense, just say breezily 'Don't worry love, that's why we have holiday insurance' and then ignore him.

This is my current strategy!

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