How to stop wishing my neighbours dead?

[orangedaisie]

My neighbours are lovely people. But they are so bloody loud is makes my blood boil.

What's funny is we are the definition of a loud family, we have 2 small children who certainly aren't quiet. But my with my neighbours in their late 70s, everything is loud. They bang their doors, they bang their bins, have loud conversations morning/day/evening, music on in the garden, music out the front whilst washing cars, doors wide open spring, summer and autumn, with loud conversations.

I feel like I'm wishing they become elderly quickly, and I hate myself for wishing them away but they are ruining my enjoyment of my home. Who am I to tell them to keep quiet when they're enjoying their retirement?

So your kids can make a noise but your elderly neighbours can't and you wish your neighbours would hurry up and die? Is that right?

You sound like an ideal fit.
You have noisy children. Your neighbours make a noise.
Glad I'm not near either of you.

But if they died, their property would be occupied perhaps by a loud family?

Sounds like you need to move to a detached house in a secluded area? Assuming they’re not making these noises in the middle of the night then aren’t these just usual sounds one makes whilst alive. I highly doubt one can bang bins intentionally or recklessly loudly or even for sustained periods ? I am extremely noise sensitive and even I think you sound unreasonable

In my teenage years, our next door neighbours were incredibly elderly. They listened to the radio 24/7 at the absolute loudest volume. All bloody night I could hear it. It was horrific. They did die eventually and a quieter couple moved in. I can't say I wasn't pleased...

In answer to your post OP, you can start by recognizing that they have as much right to exist as you do. They may be noisy, but could be thinking the exact same thing about your family. Unless you can afford to move to a detached home, on a secluded island, you have to change your mindset.

We bought a detached bungalow in a semi-rural are.

The problem is our houses are mirror image and out front door and kitchen doors are opposite each others. We use our front door only for going in and out and we close it afterwards.
They use their kitchen door as a front door and it's open all the time.
We can hear everything in their kitchen, all their phone calls, their tv, their radio, their phone and doorbell ringing.

The issue is the layout of the houses. But also the fact that they had an old boy (living in our house now), for years and years who just stayed inside. So they have become complacent and unaware, I think.

This is our 4th summer in this house and I've found every year I've hoped they age a bit and start becoming less active.
I hate myself for it but I know if they just become a bit less open it would improve the noise level massively.

You’ve said they’re lovely people, focus on that. I’ve lived next to a horrible neighbour and it was hellish. Unless you live in the middle of nowhere there will always be noise from the people living around you.