Does everyone get people like this ?

[SpanishTale]

The CF school mum who texts me daily rubbish.
The odd colleague who wants me to be a counsellor.
Generally people who become clingy and want a lot leading to me being a bit 😶
I get overwhelmed with these people. Do they try it on with everyone?

I attract people like this.
I think they try it on until you let them know you won't tolerate it/disengage/set boundaries.

Honestly I've just started ignoring messages from these people. Why should I be made to feel pestered and uncomfortable?

You shouldn't be made to feel that way. Ignoring is a good idea.

My guess is that you're a people pleaser and you struggle to enforce boundaries.

You get to choose who you allow into your life, and it isn't rude to keep people at an arms length. Feel free to take a massive step back.

I'm much less of a people pleaser these days. I just don't have the tolerance for people I barely know texting me their woes

I attract people like this as well.

I've started to realise that these people probably try it on with various people and don't get anywhere...but I obviously give the impression of being a soft touch so they start focusing on me.

I'm generally quite happy with my own happy, don't need to socialise much. So in order to not come across as unfriendly (which I'm not) I always take an interest in people. Just to keep things friendly. And for most people (school parents etc) this works fine, I have many great acquaintance type relationships with these people.

But then there are some people who take this as their cue to start bombarding me with messages, and it is hard to dial it back.

DH enlightened me years ago to how these individuals shine this attention on everyone in the hope that someone will respond. He was also the one who taught me about personality disorders 20 years ago.
I have a tendency to be a sucker for people who are entertaining with a good sense of humour. I used to feel flattered by them wanting my attention and help in their emotional lives if I thought they were fun.
I have since recognized its a huge Red Flag if someone you barely know overshares, so these days if someone I hardly know or are not close to tries to rope me into their emotional drama, I just don't feed it at all. They soon get bored and stop trying.
These days I make sure to save that kind of emotional support and attention for those who I dearly care for and have proof its RECIPROCAL. Emotional vampires never think to do for others, they are completely self-absorbed.

Honestly I used to get daily texts off this odd school mum. It was all 'how are you?' Draining. Odd colleague used to text me daily ' I'm not well ' ffs.
I have learnt to be a bit more stand offish. I find both of these people try it on with everyone though.

The lady in work I've noticed a lot of people ignore her which I think is unpleasant but I don't really blame them.

I had a colleague who wanted me to be a surrogate grandma to her two children.

"Honestly I used to get daily texts off this odd school mum. It was all 'how are you?"

How does that make her a Cheeky Fucker?

She also asks me to look after her child and about every single school event she already has information on

Well that clarifies things rather, because it looked like you were complaining about someone for asking how you are. Which seems rather prickly.

You do come across as a bit defensive if I'm honest.

Fair enough i just wouldn't pester someone I don't really know.

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