To wonder if men do get asked out?

[newonehere1]

I just wondered if single heterosexual men in their late 30's and 40's do get asked out/receive female attention.

My normal interactions with a man whom I've met recently (through a conference) must've been interpreted as romantic interest because he expressed his desire for us to date. I was quite surprised and it got me thinking.

DH was once propositioned late 30’s.
He had met someone in her professional advisory capacity, months later she then turned up to his place of work for an unrelated event (not to see him). As he had spoken to her previously, he just said hello & had a little chat and thought nothing of it. A few days later she phoned to speak to him and asked him out.
We had been married for several years and had a young child. He was baffled at how she though he was available, he wears a wedding ring!

I’ve asked a couple of men out in the last 18 months - one because I had a spare ticket, one following up on a previous suggestion from him. Good results.

I don't know. I think there are some ment out there who just presume that any female attention is romantic/sexual.

I must admit that after I separated from my now exh, I have been surprised by the behaviour of men I have known for a long time. I'm now randomly getting asked on dates by men I've known for years and had absolutely no interest in or given any indication that I am interested.

I asked DH out.

We'd been friends for a long time and I got the impression that he felt the same about me as I did about him. He had been reluctant to ask me out because I'd not been long out of quite a bad relationship.

I asked guys out when I was young.
Probably be single if I hadn't.🤣

Yes. My recent experience seems to indicate so. At one point, I was questioning myself. I replayed the short conversations and interactions we've had, but upon reflection, I realised that there're nothing wrong with me. It's more so the misinterpretation or just him shooting his shot really.

I've asked men out, I pay men attention and like nothing more than a good flirt.

Your post isn't about women asking men out though, you seem to talk about men assuming women are showing them attention with romance in mind. Which is different to asking men out.

I've never asked anyone out but confessed feelings for a friend when I was a teenager. I felt quite stupid and embarrassed immediately after. But, now, I think of it as a courageous and confident move.😅

Not just men, women do this too. Always one thread or another on it. They think if a man is nice to them it means they fancy them back, I think it’s really about being a bit desperate to be in a relationship, seeing someone you quite like and if they are nice to you. Then thinking it must mean they feel the same, when actually they are just being nice.

I'm 53 and male and...no, not in my recent experience. In fact, the last time I was asked out by a woman was when I was 17 and I guess she was about the same age. She left a note for me to find rather than asking me directly. I would have said yes but I never found her afterwards so it didn't happen. Her name was Donna Taylor.

Absolutely.

Just a friendly interaction and a smile, like I would with a female friend seems to give the wrong impression. Just had this at work and had to blank the guy because he thought that normal friendliness was a come on.

Awkward.

The last time I asked a man out he turned me down. Ten years later I met him again as he started work with my dh. Turns out he's gay and I never realized 😳.

It made me laugh as when Patti D'arbeville first saw Don Johnson she went over to him and said meet your new wife as she thought he was so gorgeous

D'arbanville, sorry!

Thank you. It's interesting to have a male perspective on this.

😂😅

I've had this chat with my dp. He said men very rarely get complimented or asked out by females. I made the first move on him after being friends for seven years. He said he didn't think he had a chance with me, so always kept it very respectable and never tried to make a move or ask me out. If I hadn't made a move on him, we wouldn't be together. That's the first time I have ever made the first move on a guy - hopefully the last too!

I think what my DP said makes sense. A few months back. I was in a kebab shop and started a conversation with a guy that was also waiting for his food. I thought I was just being friendly, but he asked for my number and said that this type of chitchat with a woman never happens.

I asked guys out sometimes when I was young and single. I can recall various times I asked a guy out to a gig, or for a drink, or something ‘casual’ but where it was pretty clear I was asking them on a date.

I never complimented a guy in a flirty way, though. I find ut nauseating when men do oyit to me (‘you have beautiful eyes’ yadda yadda 🤢) so I wouldn’t do it to a man,

I've still got the note somewhere. That occasion must have made quite an impact on me, and it hasn't happened since!

Yes had it a couple of times