Why is my child being called fat by boys..

[Chocolate2020]

My child is in primary school and she hasn't had any issues with female students and is a very kind soul and I've brought her up well enough to know how to be kind, she's always going on about helping the homeless and those less fortunate . .

The last year she told me a student was calling her fat and just being rude, I ended up having a word with the mother and it stopped .

Another boy in her class has started calling her fat and annoying her he's also told her he hates her and wishes she wasn't In the school and he's said some other really unkind things about her when she was off sick .

I will be having a word with the teacher and possibly head teacher as I can't stand bully's.

The thing is , my daughter isn't even fat , she is a normal weight .
I honestly worry what some of these comments are doing as she has told me she thinks she's fat , I had to sit her down and tell her she is fine and she can eat what she wants (she was concerned about how much she was eating ) .

It makes me so sad ☹️

I think girls get too steeped in “be kind” nonsense. They target kids who they think will be easy to dominate, you either need a very strong school environment where explicit sanctions are in place and parents are notified every single time their kid step out of line (if they have form for being an arse) to nip it in the bud or you need your kid to be fine with standing up for herself. You don’t have to insult them but can go with something like “no-one cares what you think Steve, you are boring” and just be dismissive, bullies hate being dismissed. If they don’t get a sobbing reaction they will fuck off. They are looking to wound.

Dd had a problem with another kid at school who kept telling her they weren’t friends (frenemy) I coached her to shrug and just say “yeah you aren’t my friend and I don’t want to be your friend, go away” and this seemed to work pretty well (they were quite small).

I got called fat and ugly for the majority of secondary school. I was 5’10” and a size 8. Some children are absolutely dragged up and will do anything to try to hurt others.

I had similar. At school, the boys were truly vicious to me. Then outside of school I was constantly being complimented (often inappropriately) by men and was even scouted as a model. I had a bit of a complex for a long time and teetered towards an eating disorder at university. I look back at those little shits at school and wish I’d had the confidence to tell them that I didn’t give a damn whether they thought I was “a fat minger” because I wouldn’t have pissed on them if they were on fire.

I got called fat by a couple of boys in school. I was tiny and weighed under 7.5 stone until I was over twenty. It affected my body image. They were just inadequate bullies who turned into abusive men. Teach your daughter to slay them with words. My daughter has been told all sorts, she sets them straight.

So you think it's ok for kids - boys, specifically, to fat shame others because some are actually overweight?

How do think that works?

"Fat people can lose weight but your brain will always remain small."

Because some of them are utter shits and it starts early.