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DP suicide attempt (TW)

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Thewomaninpink · 23/03/2024 20:29

Sorry, please don’t read if the topic affects you as I don’t want to cause upset.
I’m not quite sure what I am hoping for writing this down but I think I just need to get it off my chest because I feel so bloody sad right now.

DP tried to end his life last night but thankfully panicked and admitted himself to A&E. We don’t live together so I only found out after he got admitted which was a big shock.

I feel so many things right now, but mainly sadness. Sadness that he felt he couldn’t tell me, or anyone else, and how bad be really was. And I feel hurt and ashamed as well. Looking back I probably should have picked up on some very strange behaviours but I didn’t cop on.

I love this man with all my heart, and I know that he loves me too, but now I can’t believe how much he kept from me (and everyone else), and how little I noticed. He bloody notices everything about me and others, and none of us seem to have noticed a thing. And now I know, and I feel sad and alone with this knowledge. I have notified his best friend but nobody else. Part of me is also so angry and really wants to tell his family but I won’t be doing that.

I know that I just spent a whole post just talking about myself which will make me look incredibly self centred, but I just needed to get it off my chest.

OP posts:
RoadToPlants · 23/03/2024 20:35

I’m really sorry OP that sounds really hard. It’s great that he is getting the help he needs, and you absolutely also deserve help yourself to navigate this.

It sounds like you might find it helpful to talk to someone yourself, the Samaritans number is 116123.

Has he given any indication as to why he tried?

BCBird · 23/03/2024 20:36

My.partner did the same, but unfortunately he did not get a second chsnce. It was too late. Ur partner will have been in turmoil and very adept at hiding things. It is not ur fault. I had no.idea either OP. Be kind to urself. It has been over 2 years since it happened. This has been worse than the death of my parents, because it foes not feel.part of the natural order of things. Take care OP

watermelonsugar56 · 23/03/2024 20:40

I’m so sorry to hear what you’re going through and glad that your partner was able to be saved. To echo pp it sounds like it would be worth reaching out for some help in terms of what you are feeling. Sending lots of love xx

martinisforeveryone · 23/03/2024 20:45

@Thewomaninpink I'm very sorry this is so difficult for everyone concerned. You must be in deep shock. I second talking to someone. The Samaritans are always there to listen as a PP posted above, but also others on this link
Useful contacts - helping someone who feels suicidal - Mind

Thewomaninpink · 23/03/2024 20:48

Thank you all.
I’m so sorry @BCBird that’s beyond horrible

OP posts:
BCBird · 23/03/2024 20:51

It's torture. Ur partner will.no.doubt get help. Remember ypu cannot be his counsellor. It could end up.destroying u. See what help.is available for u. Take care

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