At home/duvet days

[mondaytosunday]

So I don't mean spending the whole day in bed.
Last week we travelled up north for a couple days and Monday off to Scotland for three days. Today I've nothing planned, the dogs are away due to all our travelling, and my 18 year old will not get out of her jammies today. So, how do you feel about just slumming it at home and not getting dressed? I'll still do the usual chores - laundry etc.
I remember dropping in to a friend once and she wasn't dressed at 12.30 (she was from my antenatal class so two little ones). I judged her! I couldn't contemplate not getting up and showered and dressed when I had young kids. I think it was during the lockdowns (kids teens by then) that I occasionally had a day when I didn't bother. But it just feels so slovenly! My mother would certainly NOT approve!
How often, if ever, do you have a day like this?

Lovely!

There are days when I'd do this, if I have nothing else to do/nowhere to go. Why not? I'm still dressed.

It's all about being comfortable, in your own home.

Whenever I feel like it. Why judge her? Your mother is nothing to do with her, some people are more relaxed than others and relax in different ways 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Mmhmmn I think I did because it was so different than how I did things at the time!
Not sure what you mean about my mother - I was meaning she would not approve of ME being so slovenly!

I always get dressed unless I'm ill. I just put comfy clothes on though, no makeup etc.

I don't tend to do this as I have animals that live outside and I need to get dressed to look after them at some point every day. I also get bored easily so a whole day in the house would make me twitchy. I certainly don't judge anyone who does like to have days like this though, and when I am at home I am often in PJ's in the day because they are comfy.

I have fibromyalgia so i NEED pyjama says.

Still in my pyjamas. My DM wouldn't ve impressed either but she can't see me 😁

I'm not dressed yet today, DH is still in bed. Ours kids are 9&6. I'm watching tv with DD, DH and DS are playing on the switch in bed. We'll go out somewhere later this afternoon but for now we're happy to chill out. DH is working 2 jobs and I'm picking up the slack at home so by the time the weekend comes round sometimes we just want to relax. DS has an ear infection so had to miss his swimming lesson this morning so I'm making the most of it!

It's fairly common for at least one of us to be in the PJs we slept in until lunchtime. When kids were in primary it was an occasional treat in half terms and holidays. But now I have chronic fatigue so daytime napping and quiet days at home are a regular thing, of necessity. I am sure lots of people would judge!

We have lots of lazy days here. I might stay in pjs until the afternoon, or swap into a comfy tracksuit. Potter around the house, and have a snooze on the sofa. Easy watch TV, simple meals, and minimal housework.

It isn't a failing to take it easy every so often.
Life can be hectic enough.

I wouldn’t unless I’m ill but I do have days of doing nothing and just staying home but I always get showered and dressed. Not sure why. In winter I’m always in pj’s and Oodie early though.

You don’t need anyone to give you permission, OP.

Up at dawn training for a marathon or mucking out horses is morally neutral, as is spending a day unwashed in last night’s pyjamas eating Jammy Dodgers.

If I am at home I am in pj's. I have loads, I have daytime and night time pj's.

I look after my clothes and don't want to wear them around the house, I've usually had a shower and in clean pj's.

If you knock at the door I will answer with no shame in pj's. (If people are expected of course I get dressed)

I usually get dressed, but I regularly have days when I spend most of the day in bed.

For me personally, not being up & dressed & ideally out of the house early, is not something I'd find relaxing. I'm much better if I've been up & out. During the pandemic my MH was really affected when I'd nowhere to go & had aimless days.

But that's me.

I think it's great if others do this & find it enjoyable. That's the key.

I need the balance! Some weeks I travel all over Europe working an 60hr+ week, and can have several nights in a row with very little, or sometimes no, sleep.

If I didn’t have the odd PJ day at the weekend, I would just burn out. It’s reasonable self-care.

My DC are having similar today. They've both been fending off illness for week and are tired. They're in pjs, in the front room, playing, watching TV etc. I'm doing housework.

Eta - they've been at school all week, done all clubs and go to their dad's tomorrow. They need a quiet day

morally neutral I like that.

I also don't equate wearing pj's to duvet days. I might have a duvet day once or twice a year (usually over Christmas) but that is where you do nothing all day, no laundry, no washing up nothing. (Well imo)

OP, you had your answer before you even asked the question.

“So, how do you feel about just slumming it at home and not getting dressed?” It sounds like this is something you’d like to do, right?

The real question is, why do you need confirmation/approval from people you don’t know? If we collectively said no, would you get dressed, shower and motivate yourself to do something more? And if so, why?

This is my default setting. Chronic illness means if I'm not in work I'm at home having as much duvet time as possible. I do always get up and washed/dressed in comfy clothes otherwise I feel worse but I've given up beating myself up about it.

Just enjoy.

I worked till 12.30, been shopping and am now in my PJ's ... I usually work all day and have been ploughing in the overtime so am just having a quiet afternoon

It's not a thing l do, unless I'm ill.
Our store has stopped people shopping in pyjamas saying we're a business, not a hospital. Imagine if the staff turned up in them.

I'm doing nothing today apart from bingeing MAFSAU - I changed out of my pyjamas and am wearing "leisure wear', basically posh pyjamas.

I am still in my PJs and will soon shower and put on loungewear.

I do it rarely but I don’t feel guilty when I do. Sometimes doing nothing is needed.

The problem I have when I am in my pjs all day is if a delivery arrives, I feel awkward answering the door to take the parcel ( an overweight, middle aged lady with unbrushed hair is not a pretty sight) so I try to hide behind the door and say “I’m just about to get in the shower!” The Evri guy must think I am obsessed with having a shower as he calls a lot with deliveries! I have mobility problems and cannot walk around shops so rely on shopping online.

Even if I get dressed, I tend to be in scruffy joggers if I’m not planning on going out.