"CountryShepherd
If you have a joint account, wouldn't you discuss a purchase that large?
Perhaps you have the sort of account where you wouldn't notice £500 suddenly disappear, but many people, myself included, would!
DH is picking up his new specs this week. I know how much they are because we discussed it beforehand.
Neither of us control each others personal expenditure on a day to day basis. But I'd be pretty cheesed off if he'd spent £500 without any discussion. And vice versa!
But would you discuss a car repair when you can't use the car otherwise?
For me that's the same with glasses. I need them, full stop. I can't see, drive, read, work, cook, clean, go shopping, hey, I can't even walk down the stairs safely.
I can't wear contacts and I can't change the fact that my eyes are so bad that I have to pay a small fortune for glasses.
So, no I don't discuss it. I know when I need new ones and budget accordingly.
If I can't afford a branded expensive frame I may go and choose a less expensive one and save maybe £50-100. But the lenses aren't negotiable at all."
Absolutely this! I do have to budget for my glasses. As I can't afford £500 in one go otherwise.
However, it's actually cheaper than when I did wear contact lenses as they were around £30 per month. So now instead of paying a monthly direct debit I put that money aside so I know I can buy my glasses when needed. It's an essential expense.
Likewise I put a little money aside for car repairs/service/mot costs as without a car I cannot work.
I think sometimes people with decent eyesight see glasses as a frivolous thing, whereas for those of us with bad eyesight they are an absolute essential.