Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Chat

Join the discussion and chat with other Mumsnetters about everyday life, relationships and parenting.

Is he BU for acting this way?

6 replies

newnameish · 21/03/2024 17:46

Someone I know through my local community centre/group and see quite regularly asked me to go on a date (out of the blue). I politely and respectfully turned down the offer. He seemed OK and said he hopes our interactions will not change. I assured him things will be the same. However, he has changed towards me. I bumped into him today, as normal, I greeted him, he said hello (with no eye contact) and then turned his head the other way. I was going to stop by and have a chat as we normally do, but, I just kind of continued walking.

A similar incident happened yesterday, when I walked into the room, he pretended he didn't see me, again thankfully I was talking to someone so it wasn't too awkward for me to be blanked.

I don't think he had strong feelings for me as we've only started talking about 6 weeks ago. I've given him no indication that I'm romantically interested in him. I feel quite upset because we got on so well and was hoping we can be friends.

I feel he's been unreasonable and I don't know how I should proceed? Not interested in playing games and at the same time, I don't want to be ignored.

OP posts:
Dacadactyl · 21/03/2024 17:58

Maybe he's still a bit embarrassed. I don't think he's BU really. He might feel a bit awkward initially but then warm back up over the coming weeks.

Mrsttcno1 · 21/03/2024 18:01

Aw he’s not being unreasonable, he’s probably just a bit embarrassed at being turned down and feels a bit awkward about it, I know I would be feeling that way if I was him!

newnameish · 21/03/2024 18:06

Dacadactyl · 21/03/2024 17:58

Maybe he's still a bit embarrassed. I don't think he's BU really. He might feel a bit awkward initially but then warm back up over the coming weeks.

Thank you. This is reassuring. I'm going on holiday for 2 weeks. Hoping when I come back, things will be back to normal. 🙏

OP posts:

Interested in this thread?

Then you might like threads about these subjects:

citrinetrilogy · 21/03/2024 18:11

He might have had to pluck up a lot of courage to ask you, so he's probably embarrassed.

UnravellingTheWorld · 21/03/2024 19:23

This happened to me several years ago - I was asked out and when I declined he stopped being friendly.

Honestly it validated my decision because it showed me what kind of man he was. Yes it sucked to lose a friend, but that was his choice.

newnameish · 21/03/2024 19:36

UnravellingTheWorld · 21/03/2024 19:23

This happened to me several years ago - I was asked out and when I declined he stopped being friendly.

Honestly it validated my decision because it showed me what kind of man he was. Yes it sucked to lose a friend, but that was his choice.

This is my thought. As other posters have suggested, he could be embarrassed which is fine but he's a grown adult. It's not his first time asking someone on a date. He should've factored the possibility of me declining based on how romantically incompatible we are.

OP posts:
New posts on this thread. Refresh page