Tired being around someone who doesn't stop talking

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Anyone else feel drained and increasingly irritable being around someone who never shuts up?

I've got my mum with me after an operation. She hasn't shut up.

DH got a bit grumpy last night when we were watching TV and she talked through it. She slept upstairs with me and talked through the night. Has talked all day and I'm really struggling, but am resorting to one word answers, I don't give a fuck about someone I don't know's child, or dog or anything.

I love her, but seriously I want to be alone.

Does anyone else feel the same? I guess I'm unusual and anti-social as my Dsis doesn't mind and in fact can probably talk even more.

There is someone in my life that is like this, I love her wholeheartedly but my god there is a time and a place for inane yabbering on and the morning after the first night of a girls weekend away is not one of them 😂

When you say your mum talked through the night do you mean she was sleep talking?!
How long is she going to be with you for? It’s helpful if there’s a fairly definitive end in sight.

My dh isn’t one for too much small talk, if we’ve got people round and it gets to midnight it’s too late for him and he just retires to bed, ‘people’ in this situation being… my mum! She also doesn’t stop talking about people I met when I was 3 or someone she met on holiday.

@TheChosenTwo no not sleep talking, decided 11pm to 2am was the time for a conversation.

It was minor surgery, but she needed someone to be with her overnight (no anaesthetic, but an eye procedure).

I feel your pain. I lived with my mil and once held my hands together and said “Please MIL, can I just have 10 minutes of quiet?” She sulked for the rest of the day which felt even worse. You couldn’t win - constant inane conversation or hiding away like a kicked puppy.

I have this with my mother too. It drives me potty. I think she spends so much time alone that as soon as she has someone to talk to she just doesn't know when to stop. It's as if a prolongued period of silence feels awkward or rude to her. Even when we are all ingrossed in a TV programme she has to keep a running commentary up about it, or about something else entirely.

I also cannot believe the level of detail she will go into when telling me about people who, not only do I not know, but she hardly knows them either. She hears things on the grapevine about people in her village, or relatives of her friends and assumes I am going to be interested. It's baffling. I think because she doesn't have much going on in her own life she takes excessive interest in the lives of mere acquaintances.

She came to stay for a 'few days' recently. I thought she was never going to leave. After six days I just had to say 'You need to go tomorrow mum because we've got a lot on and I am too busy to be spending all day with you now.'

She rang me at about 9pm a while later and said 'I hope it's not too late and you are still up.' I said 'of course I'm still up, it's only 9pm.'

She said 'well you were going to bed very early every night I was there.'

I was. It's true. But I wasn't going to sleep at 9pm. I just needed a break from the incessant wittering.

My MIL is like this and I cannot cope when she visits. I try to explain it to people but they don't get it. Its not just that she's chatty, she literally does not stop talking unless she's asleep. She doesn't even have to be talking to anyone, she just talks into the room even when she's alone! If she does corner you, it will be exactly as previous posters have described, just inane pieces of information about people I've never met and never will and all of the details of their lives. I had to resort to watching TV with subtitles on last time and even though she could see that's what I was doing, she still carried on chatting anyway oblivious to the fact no one was responding. I feel your pain, its exhausting.

I guess she's a bit old for a game of 'let's see who can stay quiet the longest?'.

This is something I love about my MIL she never has to fill a silence and it doesn't feel awkward.

😂