Feeling stuck and low

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First world problem and appreciate others have it far worse.

I feel really stuck and just fed up with life atm. 2 lovely kids early primary age and finding life hard. Im a nurse and have done so much extra training but salary still not great and miles behind inflation. CoL crippling us.

Both DH and I employable elsewhere but Australia is too far really as we have elderly family, Canada v ££ to emigrate and when there. DH has been offered work in the Middle East but although tax free the package offered these days just isn’t enough to be worth us moving there.

I wish we were 10 years older and had bought a house or moved aboard when there were more opportunities. The UK feels so stagnant and depressing and we can’t escape. Any words of wisdom to make me pull myself together?

Thats rough that you feel stuck and low.

I emigrated for the adventure but in the ends up just being a different set of problems. Sometimes those are easier, but all societies are struggling with CoL and as an immigrant you are very much at the bottom of the pecking order for help and when the shit hits the fan.

Do you have anything that you used to do, that gives you joy when you were younger that you could spend an hour or so a week to get some private time?

@Ger1atricMillennial thank you you’re right and I need to focus on the positives we are lucky in many ways. I’m trying to make time for exercise for some head space, I have lovely friends and family I’d miss if we moved. I just feel on a hamster wheel of working harder and harder with no reward as do we all I suppose!

Yeah, life does feel like that- the tedium of micro-suffering. Some people can snap out of it, but some just need a bit of a moan and to take stock to get through.

If you have something that is a pleasant way to pass the time that is about you, something like the cinema is a good place to start.

Three of my friends moved overseas, the move was great for one of them and not so great for two who after 10 and 25 years are back in the uk. The one who it has worked out for doesn’t have children. The one that moved to Canada has always said just how much much food is there. I remember her telling me this was before covid so 2019 or before how much a cauliflower cost it was pounds, can’t remember exact amount. Where are you in the country?

We are in the north west. Part of me thinks perhaps a move within the UK might help, maybe we just need a change?

I do think I’d be sad about the kids missing out on relationships with grandparents and things so do need to be realistic! And the drudgery of parenting would continue.
I just feel the news and general feeling in the UK is so depressing at the moment. Perhaps it’s similar elsewhere and I don’t know (I know it could be so so much worse ukraine, Gaza etc). Maybe if we have a GE and labour get in we might feel a bit more hope?