Going on long holiday without DH

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I've got a yearning to do some serious travelling when I retire. I'm likely to retire earlier than DH. He likes work more than I do.

I'd like to take a year off and just go...but I suspect that's not the healthiest for a relationship. I'm wondering where the sweet spot is for heading off on your own and leaving partner at home.

He could come out and visit - but would be limited to 2 weeks at most at a time.

It's also something we've planned to do together when both retired, but - I'm not sure when he actually is going to retire, his parents are likely to need support at some point - though very healthy now - and we have a dog...

Life is short OP - if you want to travel for a year do it! Have you discussed it with your partner? How does he feel?

When are you planning to retire?

If it’s not within the next year or so then I’d say wait until closer to the time and see how things stand then. Your DH may have changed his views by then. Or he might be able to take a sabbatical and come with. Situation re parents or dog may be different.

Is it possible you are persuading yourself it’s ok to go alone because you’d prefer that? Or perhaps because you don’t have another solution re the dog if you both went?

The dog is definitely an issue, we could leave the dog very happily with his parents, if they are well, but DH wouldn't want to leave her for any longer than 6 weeks.

The dog is 5.

We are both 55. I'd like to retire at 58.

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