Does anyone have a partner much shorter than them?

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I have a fairly new male friend who I think is starting to flirt a bit. He nice and funny and kind and solvent and good looking and really really short. 5'3" to my 5'7".

I don't find him attractive at all, but I'm wondering if I've written him off because of his height, as objectively, there's nothing else wrong with him at all. Or if we had a spark would it happen anyway?

I'm not saying I want to be interested, but I'm wondering why I'm not. And why is it that women are always almost with men similar height or taller? Just a social conditioning thing or something else?

Wlwell you said "I don't find him attractive" so don't talk yourself into it.

No I'm not going to talk myself into it, I'm just interested in my response to what is otherwise and attractive man.

Do you think there would be a spark if he was six foot?

It might be social conditioning or it might just be a personal preference for you- I think it’s hard to tell.

I think it’s the case though that women (in the UK at least) tend to be more attracted to men who are taller than them. Maybe this is different in other cultures. Or maybe it’s an evolutionary thing- women are naturally drawn to men who look like they’d be a good protector and height is a factor in that. Just as most men might have a preference for women with some noticeable curves because it suggests good fertility (of course body shape is not a predictor of fertility but as humans there is still an ‘animal’ part of our brain that works on instinct!)

I wouldn't date anyone shorter but I'm about 5'2 so there aren't really men shorter than me anyway and I wouldn't find that attractive. I've dated men that are shorter than average, say around 5'8/ 5'9.

I personally wouldn't have dated shorter, but my sister did and tbh he was a lovely chap and they seemed really happy (broke up for non height related reasons!) and I never really noticed the height difference between them unless someone pointed it out. I've noticed a few couples with taller women in and it seems to work just as normally and the opposite!

What's with all this type of thread lately. Is anyone dating a short man?
Is anyone dating a tall, slender man?
Is anyone dating a slightly overweight medium height man?.
Is anyone dating a tall man with a beard?
Is someone doing some crappy
research?

Probably true... but I find it amusing how a woman needing something as shallow as a few inches in height is any different than a man having big boobs as his criterion.

I don’t think they’re any different.

I have never had a list of criteria in my head in terms of what I would and wouldn’t consider attractive in a partner- it’s rather more organic than that. As in- the men I have found myself attracted to throughout life have tended to have dark hair, are taller than me, are lean/skinny and are very funny. I have certainly been out with men who didn’t fit those criteria (or only some of them), but if I have a ‘type’, that’s what it is.

It’s not that I would have refused to go out with anyone the same height as me, if that makes sense. (Or shorter, but there are very few men shorter than me. Not sure I’ve met one yet 😂)

Yes my husband is about 3 inches shorter than me (I'm quite tall)

It's never been a problem, but if you're not attracted to him then that's your answer. If there's a spark though then don't write it off based on height.

Not me, but an old school friend who was 4ft 10" married a man who was 6ft 11" (and moved abroad to do so). It didn't last.

I used to go out with a guy who was a tiny bit shorter than me, he dumped me for being "too much woman".

I never actually laughed so hard at being dumped as I did that guy 🤣🤣🤣

I never got past date two or three with a shorter man , though I'm 5'3"
I've only really lusted after taller blokes.

My husband of 33 years is 6'

I think it’s mostly social conditioning. I’m 5ft 2 and my last two boyfriends were 6ft 3. That was a total coincidence though. I don’t particularly go for tall men. I’ve dated quite a few men who are my height when I was younger. I find it startling how quick some women are to insult or write off short men when they’d be the first to object to a man speaking of a plus sized woman in those terms.

We like what we like to an extent, but sometimes it is worth interrogating the root of our “preferences” and also being respectful regardless of what we like . For instance, if you don’t like short men fine don’t date them but no need to be super vocal in putting them down!

Yep. Two of my past relationships were with guys who were 5 6". I'm 6 foot.

One was for 10 years and the other 4 years.

I’m 5’9”. Have dated men shorter than me (also similar height and much taller) but always felt a bit self conscious about it. But my other half now is maybe an inch, max 2 inches shorter and it doesn’t bother me at all. Not sure if that’s because I’m older and wiser or because he’s the right person.

But that’s the complete opposite to the OP!

Fact of the day - Jean-Paul Sartre was apparently 5’. And he was with Simone de Beauvoir from 21 until he died I think.

I haven't and I also don't think I'd be attracted to a man shorter than me but if they have something about them then who knows!

Everyone is different and it's ok to have a type as long as you're not putting anyone down. I wouldn't tell a short man that I didn't find him attractive because of his height for instance!

I find it interesting how subjective attraction can be. E.g. my sister definitely has a type of short, bald men (and married one, and he is lovely) but it's the polar opposite to my type and my DH....tall and hairy 😂.