Friend ignoring me - I think

[Balloonsandstars67]

Been friends for around 20 years. Never fallen out. Both mid 50s. And yes I do still use the term best friend.
She's been unusually quiet on whatsapp with me this weekend. Very unlike her. She's been on/off whatsapp all weekend. I know for fact she's not been busy/Full on this weekend.
I think she has the arse that I've not arranged to see her this weekend. We don't routinely do things at weekends and i dont necessirily see her every weekend. I do recognise that lately it's been her arranging all these things and she's usually the one to instigate the first daily message between us (we usually message every day).
I'm quite upset that she's cross at me - or so I think she is. TBH, I feel like I've been smacked in the face with a cricket bat this weekend, from her silence towards me. I'm a people pleaser. I'm not about to message her to ask her what's wrong. I don't do confrontation.
Her not replying to me this weekend/ today is just very out of character. I know she's not ill and I know she is safe ie nothing has happened to her (she has a DH at home).

Could you pop and see her and have a cuppa and a chat?

Can you send a breezy ' let's get together next (insert when convenient)' that way if you're right that she's fed up of being the instigator, you've done it and if she's just been busy, she'll never know you were worried

I think she may have gone out late this afternoon as she was going to see her parents. But regardless, she would be all over whatsapp. And she has been. Just not picking up my messages. Im really quite upset.

So you said lately it has been her initiating things? Well people get fed up of doing that you know. So you "run after" her for a change

I think you need to ask her what's wrong.

If she's your best friend, you should be messaging her to see what's up. It may be absolutely nothing to do with you. Be a friend and check in with her. I find it odd that you say she's usually the one to initiate contact. Why can't you? You're coming across as a bit self-involved.

I've messaged - again - to suggest us going out together next weekend and I will organise/sort

If you think she's cross at you because she's been making all the effort lately, and you agree that she has, and you're upset that she's cross.....
Surely the answer is to message her and instigate seeing her? Not to sit and do nothing about it other than be upset that she's annoyed. Which she may or may not be, but even if she's not, you've realised that she could be, and you've realised the reason why.
I don't mean my reply to sound harsh. But just text her and ask her to meet up soon?

Oh sorry, I've just seen your update!

I don't understand your response though - you acknowledge that you have been doing something (or rather not doing) which was likely to make her feel sad and unappreciated and probably pissed off, and then you say that you are devastated by her response?