Massively regret getting a TV

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For the bedroom.

I go to bed much earlier than DH. I usually go on my phone, read or watch something on my phone.

I had a little extra money and thought I'd get a TV so when I felt like watching a film I could on the TV instead of my phone.

I also have boughts of illness so I thought it might help pass the time when again, I'm in bed poorly.

Well for the past 3 night DH has come to bed not long after me to watch TV in bed and it's driving me nuts.

I'm used to falling asleep in the quiet, having turned my phone of and my husband still being awake downstairs.

He watches things like stand up comedy or action films, so loud things, lots of laughter etc.

Plus the room is lit up.

I said to him it's making me not be able to sleep and he said that what else did I get the TV for if it isn't to be watched. Which I suppose is right. And he would rather watch something cosy in bed than downstairs.

I just wish I never got it :(

He's being selfish.

Get rid of it

You have a DH problem not a TV problem. It’s basic common courtesy that if one person wants to sleep the TV and lights go off, and if the other isn’t tired they go downstairs. Can’t you just say I’m going to sleep now and it turn it off??

Wow, he’s selfish.

Only someone who’s selfish would watch TV in a room where someone is trying to sleep.

He’s being a prick. It’s nice to have the TV there if you both wish to watch something before bed, but if one person wants to sleep it should go off straight away. It’s the bedroom not the cinema room. You need to tell him. He should get himself a blanket for the living room or something.

I think it was selfish of you to buy a TV for the bedroom thinking it would be for just your use only but if that's what you wanted then you should have made that clear from the outset.

Get rid of it. TV in the bed room is only going to lead to bad sleep habits and bad sleep.

He's being a knob. Why isn't he watching TV downstairs?

I often can't leave the bed in the day and get bored. I thought it would be nice to watch films together too.

I just didn't really think that he would want to watch TV upstairs as he has always done it downstairs.

I go to bed at 9pm and everything off at about 9.30/10

He stays up till about 12/1am watching TV.

I didn't think he would want to do that in the bedroom.

Get rid of him it

He is being a knob and you are perfectly reasonable to have wanted a telly in the bedroom. We have a similar set-up, I go up much earlier than DH, I rarely watch the TV up there TBH, we put an old one up there when we upgraded downstairs years ago then replaced it when I was ill for a few weeks. The rules are that it goes off if either person wants to sleep, the other person is free to watch downstairs as late as they want to. We've never even discussed this, it's just the polite thing to do.

Nope. This can't be allowed. You have to set ground rules based on simple consideration for one another. If you agree to an early night watching TV in bed together than that's fair enough. But bedrooms are for sleeping in first and foremost and as soon as you need to sleep, or he does, the other should accept that it has to go off.

He can't come up to bed much later than you, then put the TV on if he knows full well you will be ready to sleep any minute. That's just selfish and rude. It's not like he doesn't have the option of watching it for longer downstairs.

Keep the tv and get rid of the selfish h.

Oh, come on.

We have a TV in the bedroom, it’s for both me and dh to use. Neither of us would dream of watching it if the other wanted to sleep, we’d go downstairs. It’s just simple courtesy.

Just tell him you need the time to sleep, we have a TV in the bedroom and my DH occasionally watches TV in bed when I'm going to sleep, but I also go through phases of anxiety which causes me issues falling asleep, when this happens I tell my husband to give me at 1 hour 30 before he comes to bed and he respects me and stays away, so should your DP.

Oh come on. It's clear that OP has a health condition that means downstairs isn't always accessible for her - so she has the TV to while away those long boring times when staying in bed is the only option.

The husband on the other hand has a perfectly good TV in the perfectly good living room, and so is being a selfish twat.

You need a proper discussion that he can watch the TV as much as he wants before 10pm then you need it off to sleep.

Turn the spare room into your bedroom take the telly in there and fit a lock on your bedroom door.
What a pos 😡 prioritising his entertainment over your sleep.

If you still have a TV in the lounge as well, your DH has a choice: he can watch TV there instead of the bedroom. Hardly an inconvenience.

It’s not the same for you: you can’t choose to sleep on the sofa instead. That would be an inconvenience.

Whoever wants to sleep, has dibs on the bedroom.

Had you taken your only TV upstairs it might be slightly different.

I don't have any tv's in my house and haven't done for years, l don't miss it at all and l would never have one again. The peace is bliss.

If that's why the OP bought the TV then she should have made that clear to her husband, that it was for daytime use only. Lack of communication here.

Obviously you don’t watch tv if someone is trying to sleep. Maybe it doesn’t bother him, but tell him it’s stopping you from sleeping. That should be the end of it if he’s a normal person.

Could you not just have a rule that you both stick to, that the bedroom TV must be switched off by 10.00pm each night? If your DH wants to watch TV after that time, he'd have to do it downstairs and not in the bedroom.

So get rid of it???

It's a bedroom, its primary purpose is for sleeping him. When one person wants to sleep, then the other person has to facilitate that, whether it's by turning off the light, TV, shutting the hell up etc.

Tell him that's the rule, tell him it's a hard boundary that you're not willing to budge on, and that if he's not willing to stick to it, you'll leave him.

To be honest, if he was a decent bloke then he'd know this without even being told, I really don't understand how selfish fuckers like this ever find a woman who will put up with them in the first place. No man would put up with this crap.