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Realised that my friends are horrible

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Chombawonder · 16/03/2024 21:19

I’ve had this group of friends for years, and it always meant a lot to me because it’s my only proper “long term” friendship group. I suffer from anxiety and they know about it, just as I know about their issues but I’d never tell anyone about it.

I split from my ex husband 2 months ago and agreed to join them for a night out. They all know that I still love him as a person and that we broke up because things just didn’t work out. They went crazy telling everyone out that we were out “celebrating my divorce” and especially told other men which made me really uncomfortable. To be fair the guys were all ok and asked if I was ok and seemed uncomfortable.

The worst thing was when one of them admitted to having lied about my ex having done something at an event we had been at. I remember it as clear as day, and her claiming one thing and him another. I did believe him at the time but I always wondered why she’d have made it up. She just said “I never liked him” and one friend said just giggled. We’re all in our 30s, and this is what we do to each other?

I called my my ex because he is the only decent and selfless person i ever met, and I feel like such a fool for having “friends” like this.

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lyingonthebeach · 17/03/2024 09:15

They sound awful. I suppose it's good that you realised before you invest any more time/energy in them. You deserve better and I hope you meet some nice people soon. Mutually supportive friends are so important. Sending a big hug!

allaloneandlost · 17/03/2024 13:28

It's important to have supportive friends, especially at a time like this but it's awful you found out they aren't. Hope you find other people who are.

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