Spoon or fork for curry and rice

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Just curious to know if most people in UK would use a spoon or a fork to eat their curry and rice. I know traditional it would be eaten with a chapati/ roti and fingers( which is how I was brought up to eat it) but how would you eat it at home. We went to a Bengali restaurant last week, and the table was only laid with knife and fork, no spoon. My family use a fork, but at friend's house the other day they only offered us a spoon.

Why are so many people making spoons a kid thing? It's a perfectly reasonable cutlery item

Fork and spoon for me.

If I had to choose one or the other, I'd go for a spoon.

I spent a lot of time in Malaysia, where hand/bread and spoon would have been the go-to.

Well, I am still confused about what most people are using. I probably would stick to a fork over a spoon, as that is what I am used to. though in the privacy of my own home I would use roti or chapati with my fingers it sounds like culturally a spoon is probably the norm, though.

A runcible spoon.

I suppose most people believe that what their family do , is what most people do. We would always use a fork over a spoon for any 'main' meal, so I erroneously thought that that was 'normal'. The thing with my friends who served us curry ,was not that they thought curry should be eaten with a fork, it was more the fact that they could not physically use a fork successfully to eat rice.

This. Poor spoons! They are ace.

Before moving abroad I'd have said knife and fork , but after living in the ME and now SE Asia I'd definitely say spoon and fork. Lot less hassle!

Well I use a fork and so do my kids , but my husband he uses a spoon . We just all shake our heads .

Yep - that's me too.

Spoon for me. I noticed that when both sides of my family are together the Asian people use spoons and the western people use forks. I only set the table with spoon and fork, never knives unless someone requests one. Sometimes chopsticks and spoon.

To me it seems very strange to eat rice with a fork.

My hands.

I was brought up to use whatever cutlery was put out so if you gave me a spoon I would use it.

I stayed with a family in Mauritius and there tables are set with a fork and spoon (in people's homes) and I discovered the delight of eating curry with a baguette, similar to the way you would use a naan or roti.

Surely a naan, rather than a passing granny?

Fork or spoon

oh! yes a naan not some random granny 😂

I use both a fork and spoon

This thread is what I love about Mumsnet! I have genuinely learnt new things about different cultures. I admit, prior to this thread I would have considered it to have been bad manners to eat a curry with anything other than knife and fork (in the uk, I knew some people ate with their hands in parts of India/Pakistan/Bangladesh, but guess never really thought that much about it.) Having read this thread I totally understand that I was wrong and won't make those incorrect judgements going forward. Thanks all!

My Anglo-Indian relatives always demanded a spoon :)

I was equally shocked to learn that some people think it's weird or bad manners to eat with a spoon! The things we don't know lol.

Ceylon Burghers here. The same.