He’s currently not working (has a seasonal job that pays well so he doesn’t have to work winter months), and has always been one for staying up late but lately it’s been pushing 4am/5am. He has a history of depression and anxiety.
Porn use has never been a secret, he was open from the start about it and my stance is as long as it doesn’t interfere in our relationship or sex life, it’s his business (I really don’t want a debate on the morality of porn use). It’s never impacted on us, we have frequent enough sex that we both enjoy. He has never, ever pestered me for sex either, it’s 50/50 instigating. My point being that I’d say our sex life is good and healthy.
Out of nowhere this evening he’s asked me to switch on parental controls on our internet because he’s addicted to porn. It’s taken a lot for him to tell me this (especially because I can be quite a sensitive person so he was probably expecting me to take it as a personal slight). I’m glad he’s told me, and I’ve sorted the controls on the internet (he can’t access it on mobile data anyway and wouldn’t have a clue how to change that, and the WiFi is my account).
I’m wondering what else I can do to support him? For the most part he is an incredible partner - he can be a bit grumpy at times but has never said an unkind word to me let alone raised his voice, he supports me, he’s taken on my child with special needs as his own, he’s financially generous and always pulls his weight around the house (doing the majority of housework during his off-season so I can focus on work). He’s a loyal person and I want to support him through this so just wondered if anyone has any experience and can offer some advice?