Anyone else can't wait for their DC to leave Primary school?

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So much drama on DC's Y6 parent chat with issues over bullying, constant complaining about school policies, poor quality of the lunches etc. Veiled threats from parents stating that their child has been excluded from this, that or the other and parents of the kids who are instigators of it "better deal with this" or else.

I've muted the chat but also get cornered by parents in the playground wanting to discuss XYZ. DC had a sleepover a few months ago. We have limited space so 5 children were invited. The mother of a non invited child sent me a barrage of messages about it. There are constant issues with friendship groups which is completely normal for primary school but what I do not understand is why parents need to be so involved in it all. Surely 11 year old kids need to resolve playground disputes themselves?

I'm counting down the days to July and the end of this. I purposefully avoided the closest secondary school that most of the class will be attending.

Their last school was nothing like this. The parent chat was silent apart from the odd "does anyone know when non-uniform day is" and I was genuinely devastated when we left (due to a house move) and still miss the school to this day.

I know more shit is to come at Secondary but hopefully less involvement with parents??

Off topic but..a wolf in your DD’s class??

furries (there is a wolf in DDs class)

Ffs. Neither schools nor parents should be enabling this bullshit.

DC1 has a furry in his year. She apparently identifies as a cat. Lol if there is any animal I could identify with it would be one of my spoilt, well fed kitties.

This.
Sorry it's shit at the moment.

After 13 years of primary school, my youngest leaves this year. I cannot wait!

Really envy you. I have another 3 years to go with my youngest. I hate wishing this time away and actually really enjoy the age the DC are now. I could just do without the school drama and all the admin, events etc. I could happily never see another World Book or Red Nose Day costume again.

Sometimes I wish I was wealthy enough to just stop work and home school (but not sure I really have the patience for that😭)

Yes I hated the cliquey mums and their drama. Glad I don't have to bump into them anymore.

I agree with what you say about primary school friendships. My dd was very popular amongst her peers but never invited to parties because the cliquey parents only invited children whose parents they got in with. I was never part of the clique so she was left out of most social things. Like you say, in secondary school, she's judged on her own merits and her social life has improved immeasurably

My son is in Y4 and I wish he could stay in his nice cheerful primary school longer! Especially when I look at the local secondary options.

However I remember feeling the same about nursery and then it became clear in the last year that he was more than ready for the next stage, and I suspect that will happen again.

I COULD NOT WAIT!!!!! I'm put off having another child because I hated the primary school years! Just clicks, drama, annoying kids, annoying teachers etc my life is peaceful now they are in high school!

I do worry when I see some of the kids from the local secondary schools on the bus etc. They seem like giants compared to my Y6 DD and I wonder how she'll cope with the move to a school with over 1,000 kids! When I attended secondary school there were about 500 pupils. I don't know when intake increased so dramatically.

But I similarly think she is ready for the move now. She is clearly bored with primary and very excited to start a new school and try different subjects.

Have to admit, I have a several school mum friends (from DC's previous school) who decided to have a third DC and my over-riding thought was sympathy when I thought about them having to restart from pre-school/Reception and work their way through the primary school years yet again. I could not fathom having to do that.

Will your dc be going to the same high school as the others in their year?

OP said in the first post:

"I purposefully avoided the closest secondary school that most of the class will be attending."

Ah missed that. Should make it a little easier then.

I do worry when I see some of the kids from the local secondary schools on the bus etc. They seem like giants compared to my Y6 DD

I used to regularly get a bus in the afternoons that carried pupils from several schools. In September each year, there were the new Yr 7s, all little and new and shiny with their brand new too big blazers and their outsize backpacks. By Christmas, you couldn't tell them apart from all the rest. 😀

And this is why we don't have a parent chat.
Well, maybe someone else does, but I'm not on it.
At DS previous school they had one and didn't add me and then egged each other on to tell the HT to exclude him. Which she did.

I found the issue were the parents and that is definitely taken out of the equation at secondary. I knew exactly one mum and met two others in passing in the 5 years DD was there.

We had low level SM issues when they all got WhatsApp and no idea how to deal with it. We had friendship breakdowns and recoveries. But in 9 out of 10 cases they managed to sort this out between them, with some talking about it at home.

If your child has issues at school with other children to the point of bullying, you speak to the school and not other parents.

And luckily the issue with birthday parties also winds down significantly, thank goodness.

Reasons why comp is harder

1. Setting

Sending indecent images Boys constantly sending dick picks. Police due to above issue. Drama Falling out Fighting Oh yes and teenagers omg seriously

Your school sounds nuts op.