So I stumbled on this thread on reddit where guys were talking about self improvement and improving their success with women. They kept talking about IOI's which means "indications of interest" and shit tests which seem to be anything a woman says to man.
It was so crazy to me the kind of things that men take as an "indication of interest" a woman glances at you, that's a IOI, if she laughs at something you say, even if she's your friends wife and your all having dinner together, that is her indicating her sexual interest in you, if she stands near you she is showing her interest. She spoke to you? Yep, an indication of interest. On what planet, is any of this true?
A "shit test" would be if you approach a woman and she tells you to bugger off, she isn't really telling you to go she is just testing to see if your really the masculine, take charge man she hopes you are, so effectively they are saying that a woman "having boundaries" isn't really a thing its just them testing to make sure you are masculine enough for them and how you do that apparently is to ignore women's boundaries and try and wear them down. If a girl tells you no thanks I have a boyfriend / husband that translates to I have a boyfriend husband but I'll still sleep with you / leave him for you if I think you are better than him, so keep trying to impress me.
Do men actually believe any of this crap? If I stand next to a guy at the bus stop or say hi does he think I am indicating my interest in sleeping with him, because I am most certainly not. If I tell a man I am not interested that means I am literally not interested and that he should leave me alone.
A male friend once asked my women all looked so miserable on the underground and I said it was because smiling or looking happy made you a target for men and that women just learn by instinct from a very young age to have their guard up and look unapproachable in such circumstances. He found it sad it created a "negative atmosphere" but even if only some men actually think women merely existing in the same space as them means she is interested and up for it then is it any wonder women are like this in public spaces?