Wee/willy help for sensory issues child

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So here's a ummm interesting post for advice....
My 7 and half year old son in the last few days has decided he wants to do standing up wees like a big boy, something we've been trying to encourage but not push on him for the last few years, anyway the issue is that he won't hold his willy. He won't touch it, he won't lift it nothing we've asked him why his scared of it and he responded his scared his going to pinch him self.l you can see his really anxious about touching it. His been like this since a baby

Sometimes the skin of it will stick to his leg meaning the wee will just go down his leg we've really had to teach him he needs to stick it out forward for the wee to aim in the toilet I'm absolutely lost on what to do any advice please muchly welcomed!

Get a toilet target sticker for the back of the toilet bowl to encourage him to aim at it?

But tbh if he won't hold himself to aim then he's going to have to stick with sitting down to wee. Plenty of adult men do, for all sorts of reasons. I wouldn't encourage him to stand up if he really can't master the steps needed for it to be successful!

Just tell him that if he wants to stand up he needs to find a way to touch it (use a bit of loo roll if he doesn't want to touch it directly?).

Otherwise tell him it's absolutely fine to sit down.

If you've been on at him for a few years it's likely not that he wants to stand up more that he feels he must to be a big boy/make you happy/it's some sort of achievement

It’s so strange, I was literally going to post on here earlier seeking some similar experiences for my son. However, he is 3, does hold his willy but gyrates as his pees so it often ends up outside the toilet.

Just a thought, but is there any sort of prop he could use that would allow him to hold his willy, without having to touch it with his hands? This may reduce the fear he may pinch himself.

@MummaMummaJumma good idea about the prop not sure what I could use though

This phase before too long will be one you wish he still had!! Ds 20 still sits with his hands down there. Keeping warm he reckons..

First thing that came to mind was a silicone oven mitt. Have you seen them?

Also, my boy also has one of those whizzer things (a travel cup for wees). Taking the cup away and just using the top bit could work aswell.

Yes I've seen them that's an idea see I was getting concerned that I need to get him medically looked at by a doctor but it feels so stupid though to me it's never lookee correct the bags are saggy there's nothing there and the willy it self is an odd shape and the fact he hates touching it also
I dunno I wouldn't even know how to address that to a doctor

Hmmm, it’s a tricky one. I think if you have concerns beyond the touching, it’s probably best to share these with a healthcare professional (out of DS’s earshot of course). You could call a health visitor initially to see if they have any concerns, and that may give you a better idea of how to phrase this to your Dr. But please, don’t feel stupid if something is playing on your mind. It’s always best to double check, at the very least to put your mind at rest x

Go to the GP and just as then to check his testes have descended and are in the correct place if you are concerned about how they look. And mention it then.

At 7.5 he will no longer have a health visitor.

Ping pong ball to aim at

My son is exactly the same. We tried the travel cup thing when he was younger but he wouldn't let that anywhere near either. Just recently (age 7) he's taken it upon himself to wee standing up and holds himself to do this. I guess he just had to get there in his own time, neither of us had spoken to him about it in a long time so no pressure from us. I think maybe he'd seen the boys at school doing it so decided he needed to overcome it.

I wouldn't worry unless he really wants to stand up but is getting frustrated with himself/worked up. Nothing wrong with sitting down.