Decent dating sides

[Whatslovegottodowithit123]

I am 30 and I am sick and tired of the popular dating apps - Hinge and Bumble. I am just getting nowhere on either of them.

I am thinking of signing up to a website where you have to pay - like match.com

Can anyone recommend some good ones?!

Anyone?

I would say at age 30, go out & socialise. But I don't think young people want to do that anymore! Dating sites are tragic. You'll just see the same faces on the paid ones that you see on the free ones imo.

I also tried recently and was horrified about the drop in standards on the sites I was on this year v back in the past at several points in time. I tried hinge and bumble. Wasted money on hinge. I was contemplating paying for match again myself but unsure if it will just be the same bunch of time wasters!!

I found that you see the same people on match, bumble, POF etc

I found Match awful, they are all awful in my experience though. I’ve given up and decided to be single indefinitely. When the kids leave home I will get some cats and be cat lady.

I've heard mixed things about dating sites, it might be best to try things like wine and cheese tasting, walks in your area etc, whatever appeals to you! Go see some music with a friend and get chatting to people?

I think there's a site called meetup so have a look in your area.

In my experience all terrible. I'm sure the male dregs of society are on them. Luckily I'm happy being single. If I was your age I'd say get out and socialise. Join some groups. Good luck op

@Whatslovegottodowithit123 I just had a look at meetup for my area and there's a pub outing in April for anyone who wants to go, drinks and music, so there might be something similar near you?

If not you could set up a group.

I have basically come to the same conclusion that the men on there are the dregs. I wonder whether decent men have just had enough of them too and have come off them. I’m glad I haven’t wasted money on match as I did worry it would be all the same faces as the others. I’ve downloaded meet up but done nothing with it as yet…

They are honestly all the same.

You're recommending company that has no online presence, only a single mobile number to contact them, and isn't listed on companies house. Seems legit.

I would say the paid sites are very different to the free ones.

The demographic of the one I am on is much more pushed towards the middle class.

Competitive travel boasting, fitness obsessives, power jobs and "I love animals more than anyone else" try hards.

I like the exclusivity of the paid sites - for example it is much less likely that you will come across someone who knows you on a paid site than on an unpaid one.

And the people on there are generally well screened for bad behaviour so you can't really get away with bad behaviour very long before being chucked off. For example people offering dodgy services get terminated pretty quickly.

But the diversity is low, and generally you will not meet many of the more "normal" people you might to expect to meet in society on there, because most of those people opt for the free stuff.

You also get all the usual dating behaviour. People posting photos 20 years younger and 40 lbs lighter than they actually are. Photos with hair when they haven't actually got any and people lying about their relationship status.

I am in two minds whether it is worth it.