Car crash last night, hand hold needed

[thatdarncat]

As above really, non-fault, was rear ended on motorway. Car still driveable and no significant injuries, but still really shaken (not to mention stiff and tender). Feeling rather sorry for myself and looking for advice on how to give myself a shake (and to stop thinking about it all the time).

If you’re physically up to it, the best thing you can do is to get right back out in the car and drive as soon as you can…you’ll possibly be a bit nervous, but getting right back in there stops any negative feelings before they start

I think it's one of those 'time' situations. It's only just happened so you are bound to be feeling shaken up still and rehashing it in your mind. Hopefully the shock will start to ease off soon. Sending you a hug and passing a big mug of tea and a big slice of cake x

Have you done the essential stuff? Informed your insurance and got yourself checked out medically?

You’re in shock and what you are feeling is normal. The playing it over and over in your mind is your brain trying to work out how to protect you, something along those lines. You have to go through it until it’s part of your memory. You could have a bath, put YouTube on etc. even if you can’t focus.

Write it down, it gets it out of your head. Notes l, no matter how small, can help. They'll also come in handy 'just in case'

A nice bath or shower will help too

Thanks everyone. Yeah I contacted insurance company so it’s all in hand. Not checked out medically as was fine at the time, but sore today, been sidetracked with my unwell DD who is poorly and off school.

Write down exactly what happened. Timings, location, all the driver details that were collected, etc. Each time you think of it, go back to what you've written and add/amend anything you've thought of. Then close it and go and do something else.

Helps get the thoughts out of your head, and can be useful for insurance purposes too having everything written out.

Make sure you write every last detail down, in case you get asked again and again by the insurers. Presumably you've had the car checked over for no hidden damage. Beyond that, a bit like a terrible hangover, it will pass, you're understandably a bit shaken up. It's a horrible thing to happen. I once had someone crash into the side of my car (their fault, not mine) - no-one was hurt, but it was horrible.

I was rear ended at traffic lights a good while ago. I still have to look to one side (avoid mirrors) when a car is pulling up behind me. And it took a while for a heavy truck trundling over uneven road/grid (and making metallic crashing noise) not to freak me out. It was the memory of the sound that upset me the most.
It's not nice, you have full empathy from me!
PP are correct, though, get back on the horse as soon as you can.
You'll be ok, but it takes time to fade. xx