What can I say to my friend with a terminally ill child

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What do I say to my friend whose 3 year old has a terminal diagnosis and has been admitted into hospital.
I'm devastated for her, for the child. She is strong and resilient and bereft and matter of fact about it - always has been. She is such an amazing woman. I'm just in awe of her.
Obviously she knows knows knows all of this, I've said it to her over and over again. You're amazing and I'm sorry and I'm here for you whenever you need anything.
Just at this point where she thinks it's the end I just don't have the words to comfort her and it feels shit because it's the very least one can do in this situation.

I'd say I'm here for you. I don't want to give you empty platitudes, but you and your child are always in my thoughts. I don't want to upset you by bringing up the diagnosis or asking you questions if you're not ready to discuss, however I am here if you want or need to talk. I'll be guided by you as I know you are in an unimaginable position.

When my baby died, the most important thing for me was being able to talk about what happened, and to have people just listen and hear me.

I also desperately needed to be mothered myself. Just having people come around and make me cups of tea and bring me biscuits and things made me feel cared-for. And hugs. Hugs were so important. Much more than words.

You can feel so worthless and surplus to requirements when your child dies. I honestly felt like scraps left over. It meant the world to me that my friends made me feel I was still welcome in the world, that there was some point to me.

I agree about it not being super helpful to be thought of as strong or brave. It didn't offend me or anything, but it just made no sense when people said this to me.

This is a hard thing for you, too. I hope you are OK. I am wishing you and your friend and their family all the love in the world. ❤️