Baby was born full term thankfully no complications. At 3-4 month some of his topfront baby teeth started coming through. Almost instantly I knew there was a problem with one but assumed it was just me being over protective and worrying. I looked under a uv light and noticed 1 tooth was glowing. By 6 month ( 2 months of front 4 teeth coming fully through) I booked an appointment for the dentis. His tooth left next to front 2 had chipped and was discolouring a little. I was told it wasn't an emergency appointment as it often happens..... make sure to brush
On wait for dentist it chipped again at some point chewing teething toys, tge again day or so before appointment and levelled off. Now 9 months old and tooth mostly through my dentist ( fairly young and new ) accused me of not brushing babys teeth, bad diet and sugar drinks, sweets and to do better. Baby was still mainly breastfed and only just trying solids and hadn't had sweets etc. I had also been attempting to brush multiple times a day as best you can with a unhappy screaming flailing 6-9 month old. Dentist prescribed a adult high flouride toothpaste which made my baby cry. it was so strong in flavour and would refuse to put a brush in his mouth.
It took month or 2 using a childs toothpaste, playing with several brushes through day to gaining some trust and a bit wrestling and both us crying at times to get him to let me brush properly. He did refer me to local specialist ( only after demanding) as babies/ children arnt his thing. Clearly as he asked me his school routine and aged my 9 month old as 4. he didnt even really look in his mouth.
I waited over 6 months for local specialist. She was less insulting but had never see this before other than txt books and to know properly reffered to see another specialist. Said it could of been illness likely antibiotics I was given during pregnancy ( had a short course for mild water infection at random tests). By this point his front 6 teeth top and bottom were all through . 2 next to the front 2 looked patchy and is a tiny pin prick dinted discoloured line on one front tooth and pin prick on other front one ( back side of tooth is fine). She advised the prescribed toothpaste to be binned immediately and would be dangerous to his adult teeth along with too strong flavour. Only to use a child's higher %fluoride ( as I had been using since day 1.)
Now he is just few days short of being 2. finally seen the specialist. Again they started off accusing me of causing this by bad oral hygiene, too many sugary snacks. Got his name and Gender wrong several times so hadnt read notes. Wouldn't listen at all that it started instantly and didnt rot this way ( all thats happened is they have discolored more. So then its my fault for brestfeeding on a night and I should of given him water after ( even as new baby). When I said I'd been told genetics or antibiotics...she said yes could be if you had them during pregnancy. I said I did so she dropped it....but I was already upset. His other teeth are beautiful and clean.
She wants to pull out 5 of his teeth. All 4 front ones and one at back currently non are causing any issues and back one had hardly visible dot of missing enamel that she looked 3 times to see or not. Or while he is under pull4 then her words put a "uglyblack cap" over his whole back tooth so he will be able to chew. I agree 2 are a big problem visually now and will need to come out soon. Im just devastated they messed me around so long this is now the "only option" for any of his teeth. Especially wanting to pull 3 as just incase vrs coat them, and try look after them. Give him time to learn to speak, eat etc.
My brother lost some of his teeth from being sick alot as a early baby. The amount of teasing he got was horrific for being "gummy" and talking differently. My older 2 girls get left out and worse for being duel race. This is just extra ammo to make this little ones life so much harder at school. NHS does lot of good but I'm so upset with extra long waits has messing this up more than it need be. Then taking only cheaper options to just yank out every tooth with possibility of an issue. Then add the insensitive questions and accusations like im bad mother and i dont know if im more upset for him or angry. Just had enough for today....and in general. All my partners family and much of this community assume I'm a junkie or bad mother just because I'm white and not of the same religion. Being told by mums at school oh we didn't think white people were clean or cooked and all other BS iv heard. This is going to add fuel to the insults and accusations.
Anyone have any experience or advice with no enamel on baby teeth Don't want to just agree pull 5. 3 are so minor affected and could be filled, coated, varnished capped etc and last few years to give him time to at least understand whats happening to him and why he is in pain and all his teeth have been ripped out .....unless they mess us around another 12month+ waiting lists and it messes up extra again waiting for them.