I have a lovely group of friends, we are all aged 40-47.
I'm happy to see friends in a local pub/cafe etc but I have no interest in things like the theatre/cinema/shopping etc. I have no interest in doing things with anyone. I feel like some of the people in the group pressure me onto doing these things and I regret saying yes to things I really really do not want to do (as is the case this weekend).
I had my hair cut last month, one friend was DETERMIND for me to send them a pic of my hair. I explained it was just a trim and no big deal. Why did they need to see a pic ? I find that odd. Yes, lovely to show an interest but I didn't send a pic on their first request, so why keep asking and why is it that important to them ? I find that odd.
I'm happy to chat on whatsapp but really do not like chatting on the phone to friends as I feel awkward, but I will happily make a business call for as long as needed.
I don't like to share too many details of what I have been doing, with anyone. Even if it's just an exercise class I went to, I don't generally share. I think this stems from worry that someone might want to come with me and then it could become having to work the class/arrangements with someone else, rather than all on my terms i.e. if I don't fancy it one day then there is no obligation for me to go.