(TW) Feel so scared of having a second miscarriage

[Sooooup]

I miscarried at the start of the year at 5+4 and I’m now 4 weeks pregnant again without having a period in between. I used OPKs to determine when ovulation was and got a BFP 8dpo. So far so good, very dark tests. 14dpo now. I know it’s really early days.

I’m 22 and DH 25, no underlying health conditions that I know of. Wasn’t a huge drinker before TTC nor have either of us ever smoked. Taking Pregnacare and magnesium.

Realistically I know the chances of another loss are very very small given the circumstances. In our 20s and conceived first time twice. No maternal family history of loss.!I just can’t stop worrying and want to fast forward to seeing a healthy heartbeat at a six week scan.

The loss before was likely a blip, a random genetic issue right? I think I won’t relax at all until after I pass that point, as silly as that sounds.

We are desperate for this to be a sticky baby and our lovely little rainbow. 🤞 🌈

Just wanted to vent.

Most miscarriages are random and a one off, so most likely you will be fine. It's hard to relax though I know.

Congratulations! I totally know how you are feeling OP. I miscarried on Christmas day 2023 (was seven weeks +2 but it was a missed miscarriage that happened without my knowledge at around 5 weeks +4). I fell pregnant again in January without having a period between and for the first couple of weeks I basically didn't engage with the reality of my pregnancy at all because I was so sure I'd miscarry again as I have some health conditions and I'm 36. I'm now 10 weeks +2 and had an early scan two days ago. Saw the little bean wiggling and waving and heard the heartbeat and the sonographer said the measurements were perfect and I feel much better about everything now. As you have mentioned in your post, your odds of miscarrying again are very slim and worrying about it will change nothing. I know it's so hard not to worry, but nine months is a long time and you'll do yourself no favours if you spend that time in a state about something you can't really control. I expect you'll start to feel better in a couple of weeks but if not then it's worth asking your GP to refer you to the perinatal mental health team as they can help to address your anxiety. Xxx