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can't seem to let go of being denied charity/long

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ThisLoftyLilacShark · 11/03/2024 17:22

Last year I moved areas with nothing but essentially the clothes I was wearing, my phone, few bank notes. I had housing support and had to explain some of my difficulties in case they could have helped or signposted, but the support I needed wasn't in their job role. I have mental health issues and hidden disabilities and one out of my two housing workers who were also in communication with my housing officer suggested that I get retested for one of my disabilities because they couldn't believe that I was disabled. I know it sounds unbelievable. I reported this to their manager and asked for a new worker and was advised that they were stretched and couldn't believe me because of their good character, they've never had any reports about her and wouldn't be changing them. The housing worker denied saying it at all. They were a bit more careful about what they said to me from then on though.
I was getting PIP but couldn't manage my money properly although it wasn't much to begin with. My housing support workers and housing officer didn't seem to be able to fathom how I couldn't manage and kept trying to suggest budgeting advice. There was a community charity giving away free things that my housing support workers had told me about that could give me free clothes, they were in communication with the woman who runs it. I sent the charity a few messages to ask for other bits I needed. My housing support workers once back to work had been told by the woman that runs the charity that I had been asking for things and they were all quite judgemental about it and suggested that I buy them myself. The following week they say that someone had written things about the woman on the charities Facebook page and called her names and asked if it was me which i denied as it wasn't me, and they explained they're asking all of the people they're visiting, although that doesn't add up. On their next visit they tell me that the woman who runs the charity had said that it was my name and profile picture that had done it and it had been deleted. It just wasn't true at all. When I tried to speak to the woman through the page about it I had already been blocked. I've looked up reviews of the charity and they're all great, I've since seen whats public of the womans personal facebook page and everyone has wonderful things to say about her. I don't know what to think, and I don't know how to let it go. Their page is all about helping everyone and the great work they do.

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ThisLoftyLilacShark · 11/03/2024 17:31

I should add I'm in a much better position now and don't need the charity

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IggOrEgg · 11/03/2024 17:34

I can see why it upset you so much, especially at an otherwise very difficult time, but there’s not really a solution to be had here in my opinion. You know what really happened but they will not accept that. It would only invite more upset to try and hash it out with them now.

Dacadactyl · 11/03/2024 17:34

What support are you having for your mental health?

In terms of moving on, I would look to get support from a mental health charity, perhaps your local MIND.

ThisLoftyLilacShark · 11/03/2024 19:59

@IggOrEgg I wonder if one of the support workers was behind this. I really cant understand it
@Dacadactyl I am getting CBT

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