Husband binned something now I'm getting charged - frustrated

[pontipinemum]

It's not a big deal but it is annoying me.

I work from home. I my company bought replacement ink for the printer (the 3 colours). But the yellow was not working. The stationary company said send all 3 back and they would send 3 replacements. They sent the replacements, I sent the originals. This is where it is my fault, DH had changed the ink, and instead of packing up their yellow that didn't work he packed up the old yellow that had come with the printer. Yes it is my work printer and I should have done it.

Anyway after the ink was sent back I did cop that we had their ink. But wasn't sure if they would need it.

I said leave it in the garage. I spoke to the stationary shop about something else which was ordered a few days after the return and nothing was mentioned.

2 weeks on they have said they need their yellow back or will need to charge.

I phoned DH and said where is that yellow in the garage, he's binned it and the bin has been collected.

Stationary company now want to charge me. I will pay, it's not their fault and it's not my companies fault.

DH was a little whiney on the phone like 'ya, ya, ya I made a mistake, you said they didn't need it' it's the sort of apology that isn't really an apology because he doesn't think he did anything wrong and immediately went on the defensive. If he has just said 'oh crap I binned it sorry' I'd have been fine but he is making it out like I didn't say to keep it has just annoyed me.

This is just one of those things that happens from time to time. Mistakes and miscommunications will always happen. Just let it go.

A non issue really.

Let it go, not worth the upset.

It was a really easy mistake to make given the faff. I wouldn't be falling over myself to make a proper apology either, and I wouldn't be dwelling on it if I were in your position.

Gawd, if only my problems were as trivial as this!

We all make mistakes though, both me and DH were very tired at the weekend ( long story ) he made a small mistake I moaned about it to him, 20 mins later we both realised I had made a different small mistake. He was kind enough not to moan and just went and fixed it for me. That was a lesson learned for me, a little understanding goes a long way when life is busy and you get exhausted.

How much is the cartridge worth?

Why do you need a proper apology?

He's said it was a mistake, it wasn't intentional, just a mix up. A proper, grovelling, apology won't make the slightest difference at all.

At 17, he needs to have a source of his own money, for whatever reason. I'd use this as an excuse to encourage him to get a part time job, then he can buy his mum whatever presents he wants to get her. Is there any reason he doesn't already have a job?

Sorry, wrong thread!

Gawd I thought you meant charged like by the police! Eh, unless it's a lot of money (and then you probably should have taken more ownership of the situation) I could get too worked up about this. Unless it's part of a bigger pattern of him binning your stuff 🤷🏻‍♀️

I've logged back on to say I am over it. And see I've had some replies.

@StopTheBusINeedAWeeWeeAWeeWeeBagOChips no I don't need a big groveling apology at all, It just annoyed me that he made it out like I hadn't asked him not to throw it out when I know I def said don't throw it away. Like I was lying.

I've asked the stationary company to invoice me and I won't be mentioning it to DH again

And yes I do have very little to worry about in my life, it hasn't always been that way. But it is now and sometimes little things annoy people for a little while. I won't be holding onto it.

I work from home sometimes I need to talk about my little frustrations and I don't have work colleagues to do it with

What is the point of going on a thread and posting this? There's no need to assume that there's nothing else going on in OP's life (and sometimes stress over something bigger can make us react more strongly to more trivial issues). Why not just ignore/close the thread if you think it's nothing?