Need some advice/motivation to get my shit together

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I haven’t been sleeping well and I’m feeling overwhelmed.

I’m waking up for hours during the night. Maybe peri menopause? Grief from my mother dying? Children are also sleeping badly due to anxiety and other one just regular childhood illnesses. So I’m not thinking straight.

I need to sort out my sleep, weight, my house needs work, my marriage needs working on, I’m a sahm I need to think about retraining soon, household routines aren’t working, I’m feeling burnt out.

Dieting - fast 800 only thing that worked at weight loss of 1 -2 lb per week but I can’t sustain that and one meal off plan puts on this and more. I need to do more exercise, do 15k plus steps a day but I feel too tired/unmotivated to do more and if I do proper exercise I end up exhausted.

Sorry, this isn’t very coherent!

Where do I start?

Go to your GP, get checked you're not low in iron, hypothyroid, low in vit d.

How old are the children? Can you get out for a walk during the early afternoon? Might help with your sleeping too, or are things whirring round your mind at night?

Tackle one thing at a time. Weight is a big issue in my home but I'm hypothyroid and vit d deficient which also affects my mood and sleep.

Hi there, I just wanted to say like above thyroid can affect how tired you are. I’ve been on thyroxine for 10 years as I have underactive thyroid. Are you of perimenopausal age? My anxiety and waking up in the night has increased, I’m nearly 40.
I think it’s really difficult with young children and older children to look after yourself. I write a list of things I need to do for them then a list of things I need to do for me (if we mums aren’t rested & looking after ourselves) we find it harder to cope with the day to day. Other things that have helped are focussing on eating the right things and getting outside in nature if you can. Walking/exercise makes you more tired at night. But like poster above says one thing at a time to make things not too overwhelming. Take care

Thanks. Youngest is in school nursery in the mornings so things should be easy. I normally walk the school run. I do around 15,000 step a day.

I will make an appointment with the GP.

I’m 40 but my Mum has an early menopause so I will go to the GP.

I’m really tired on an evening but I often wake in early hours for a couple of hours.

You need to make a plan under different headings/categories (health, financial etc). Write points under the headings of things you want to address/achieve. Then prioritise the things and work towards one thing at a time. It might help get you back into focus, I try to to this when I am getting overwhelmed with life and it helps me as naturally my brain is very disorganised.