Pros and cons of marriage?

[sunshineandstarsgirl]

Pros and cons of marriage?

Marriage keeps you together long enough to find each other and fall in love all over again..
you can still have lonely times, not agree with your partner, disagree with their parenting decisions, not like them ALL the time.. . but for us it’s a safe space to live a peaceful life. .

Pros, legal protections in the event of splitting, death, pregnancy, you can't be thrown out of the family home etc.

Cons. Financial entanglement that can be a long process to sort out. Not good if one of the members is financially irresponsible, in debt, and addict etc.

Depends on individual circumstances.

In my case, there would be no pros to marriage. I am a single parent with a flat in my name and a DC. If I married then a man would have a claim to my finances. No thank you.

If you want to buy property with someone, have children and start a family with someone, get married for the protection.

Emotional wellbeing - for me anyway.

Pro... five minutes of happiness

Con... watching someone you love slowly turn into someone you hate and then feeling pressured into staying because of the logistical/financial complications you've erected over the years.

If you are a SAHM then you are very vulnerable if you aren't married.

If you are the higher earner then you are better off not being married.

Marriage is a legal contract which, in theory, protects the more financially vulnerable partner.

I never wanted to get married particularly. But I am now and honestly I like the conventionality of it, saying I’m married. It gives the relationship a name.

late marriage, he’d been married before, I’ve kept my name, largely separate finances, no kids (he has kids). so some might ask why did we bother?

we’ve been through a couple of very difficult times which I think being married, that formality, meant we stuck at it together, Most of my friends in their 50s haven’t bothered to get married to long term partners.

doubt my husband has ever really thought about it.

There is not a single Con to my marriage.

Lots and lots of Pros though.

Same here.

Pro: you get to dress up for the day

cons: your trapped, not easy to walk away, financially tied to each other. Not to say these all cant be sorted but its complex. £600 for no fault divorce and solicitors bill.

honestly, if i knew what i knew now, i wouldnt bother. Its not made any difference to us except more complicated to end things

Totally depends on if its a happy marriage or not.

@Spring5

Pro: you get to dress up for the day

that's a wedding not a marriage. I didn't have a wedding - so no dress up but I'm married.

What a great answer!

For the financially weaker person, or for any spouse whose career and eating capacity is impacted by having children, it provides a measure of financial security.

For the financially stronger partner, not so much.

NB no tax to pay on asset transfers within a marriage so no IHT on inheritance. Eg if the unmarried partners's share of a jointly owned property is worth more than the IHT allowance, the surviving partner will find themselves having to pay IHT on the home in which they live, in order to continue living there.

Love the auto correct @FinallyHere
I knew what you meant though.

@RampantIvy 🤭

All pros for me so far. 3.5 years married.

The security and safety I feel is an unexpected perk I didn't expect!

After a lifetime of chaos and trauma, my husband is the one thing that i can count on.

Arguments are less because we are married, we have each other's backs and put each other first. We wrote our own vows and stick to them.

We are both autistic so we are honest and value fairness and justice, so our vows are very important to us.

We can plan a future together, there are no maybes.

I love being married!

How long is a piece of string... With the right person, in the right circumstances - marriage is all "pros". With the wrong person and the wrong reasons - all "cons". Right person/wrong time - lots of heartache, wrong person/all the right reasons - lots of headache.
I am married for 10 years and could not imagine it any other way, very happy/secure in our relationship. But equally I do know plenty of people who are deeply unhappy in theirs, despite being married for decades (sleeping in separate rooms, eating at different times and generally not communicating).

Well apparently it’s been proven that married men are statistically happier and live longer than single men.

Married women on the other hand are less happy and live shorter lives…

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