Changing daughters last name

[Eletrunks]

Hello my daughter has asked if she can change her last name to what my last name will be when I get married as her brother and sister will have that name as well. My daughter has said that she don't want to be different to the rest of us and that she feels out of place having a different name. So I rang her dad up to ask for his was ok with it ( he has not seen her for the past 2 years, I have not stopped him from seeing her he has chosen not too) he said no but had no reason why he wouldn't allow her to change it as my daughter is 10 and is as bright as anything and I don't keep anything from her about her dad and what goes on, she makes her own mind up about him and what she wants. What would you do ? I really want this for her as don't want her to feel out of place after get married 😞

If having the same name is important to all of you, might it be simpler if your husband to be changed his name to yours?

She can change it when she is 18 to what she wants

But you don't need to change your name anyway

She can always be 'known as' for school and anything else until old enough to legally change it

Just keep your name. Change it when your dd is 18 if she still wants to change hers

Sounds a bit off

Telling her everything' dressed up as keeping nothing from her....poor kid

Her husband and her two children

I'd explain she can use the name if she prefers but m she can't properly change it until she's 18

Does this mean that at present, you and all 3 DC have the same name?

But as DC1's father will not permit the change, and if you and DC2&3 change name on your matrimony, she'll be odd one out?

In those circs, I'd not change anyone's name.

If your DFiancee is bothered about matching names, then he should be the one to change (or double barrel)

Keep your name.

She can change it herself at 16.

You could take your ex to court over it. But I think it's very rare that judges agree to a name change.

She is 10, she is far too young to understand this situation. You are the one who has to be the grown up. But you don't really sound like you are being that person here

my daughter has asked if she can change her last name to what my last name will be when I get married as her brother and sister will have that name as well.
does this mean your other two children have the same name as you but all three of you are changing when you get married?

id keep all the children with your name, if that is what they are now.

She has a different last name from me now even though I have not been married

My other 2 children have the same as my future husband and she has my exs last name