weight loss friend loss

[crochetmonkey74]

Hello
I've lost 5 stone and have another 3 to lose (I'm only 5ft 2 so you can imagine I was very overweight and I was also quite unwell- having to come downstairs one step at a time sideways as my knee hurt so much and also very high anxiety that made me a bit agoraphobic at times)
I have a nice friendly colleague at work who started off congratulating me as I dropped the first bit, then was v complimentary, then started saying 'don't lose too much' and is now not interested in talking to me at all. We used to regularly chat about a mutual hobby (crafts) but now, she will barely say hello.
My behaviour hasn't changed - and I don't flaunt the weight loss at all. It's quite hurtful- has anyone experienced this? It feels like she doesn't like me as much now I am not fat

It is most likely that she is envious of your success; it is not easy to lose weight and most fail repeatedly (that’s how the weight loss companies keep in business - through the ‘repeat’ business!).

I lost 6st and was called anorexic, too gaunt and thin, you’re taking this too far etc. Some people just cannot celebrate and support other people’s success.

Well done on your success and perhaps just keep on being bright and breezy with her.

Yes @globetrote could be. Have you noticed other social changes with your weight loss?
There is a male colleague of mine, very handsome. He's always been very aloof, barely knew I existed , he is now very attentive, very friendly. It feels odd to suddenly be noticed.

@Globetrote I didn’t notice anyone treating me any differently once I had lost weight, and I was still invisible to men! The biggest difference was that clothes shopping was unbelievably easier and less stressful.

I was still the same person so for me a man who had ignored me, but was now attentive once I’d lost weight, would not be on my radar at all as I think it’s superficial (although I know that’s just the way most men are wired).

A colleague of mine would do this. 'You're losing too much! don't lose any more!' I reckoned that when she said that I'd lost just about the right amount.

Never underestimate how much successfully losing weight annoys some people.

Yes that's how I feel about it too ! Totally superficial and very unattractive in a man