If you are long term single, who is your support group?

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I'm sure there are plenty you people who consider themselves completely independent, but I think most people do need others they can reply on. E.g.

-Who do you call when you have something to move that requires 2 people - my sons
-Who do you phone when you get worrying medical results - maybe my mum or one of 2 friends

• Who would you text first if you got an exciting new job - the supportive friend who has followed a similar career path
• Who do you put down as emergency contact - I struggle with this. My parents are old and frail, DC are only just adults, it doens seem fair to out either of them. A divorced friend has said I can put him, we can put each other, but I'm not sure about that either TBH.
• Who would you call if stranded because there are no trains in a storm? I have a few friends I could ring, but it seems a much bigger ask than getting a DH to come out.

What other support do you have/need that people in a LTR would look to their partner for?

I have a couple of good friends that help with stuff and I can talk to.
Tbh my emergency contact is usually ex-husband as he'd need to know (in order to get kids, sort them out, etc). I've no idea who I'll put once the kids leave home

I can ring my mum if I get worrying news. Otherwise I have no-one. I manage.

My children are both adults so they would fulfil the emergency contact and moving heavy stuff role for me.

Worrying results? I would keep it to myself.

New job? Kids.

No trains? I would expect the train company to provide a bus/solve it. I do lean heavily on companies supporting their customers.

Years ago I was in a house fire, an HMO. The fire brigade asked all of us (maybe 7 people were living there???) if anyone was going to be homeless or if they all had friends and family to stay with. Everyone was fine but they said there was a 24 hour support number for the council to help people in that situation, to find emergency housing. Or maybe it was a social services number? And they said that we could ring anytime, if our friends could only put us up for two nights then we could still access the housing help later. That was in the 90s though.

If you are a single man you are generally stuffed. Women with or without kids seem to be better protected for housing etc.

And I always try to have savings, credit card, phone charger, that sort of thing.

I was single for about 10 years and during this time it was my ex (we have a child together but don’t talk much now), sister, mum.

If I was very desperate then I have a few friends that I trust - but I’m terrible at asking for help which comes to a disadvantage sometimes.

If I really need help with heavy lifting due to moving house or something similar then a Google search for a service.

I found myself being very self reliant but having a sibling is helpful. I guess as I age then my DD.