It’s my birthday tomorrow

[Subutteo]

The kids have been on spring break this week (we’re not in the UK) and my husband has been working from home so he can keep an eye on them. I told him I had booked the day off work so I can have some much-needed quiet time on my birthday. Husband has decided that since I am not working, he no longer needs to work from home so he is going into the office, leaving me to deal with the little ones by myself. That is my birthday treat, apparently. He is doing this knowing that the children will not leave me alone for even one second. They don’t do that with him because they know he he never plays with them anyway. He said, Well, you said you didn’t want anything special on your birthday, but I think it should have been obvious that I meant gifts.

So, I anticipate a highly stressful day.

Happy Birthday!! 🌷

you are married to a complete Arse, I'm sorry, I'd be telling him he will be WFH tomorrow because you are going out, then go out early. If you were my friend you could spend the day at mine, make yourself at home, nap in the guest room etc

Agree with above. Tell him what you want - it's your birthday after all!

Happy Birthday Subutteo. 🎂
Tell him you'd really appreciate him staying home today to work, so he can help with the dc. You order a nice lunch for everyone so no work or clean up.

Happy birthday OP. I bet your husband thinks he has done his bit. Can you go somewhere for the day where u can let kids run.around whilst u have a coffee snd a cake? Hope u get in some chill time.

Thats so mean, he did it on purpose which is really shitty.

To be fair, he is working and you're not. I know it's your birthday and that's how you would like to spend it but perhaps the whole day is unrealistic.

I'm sure you'll want to spend time with the kiddies too ?

Alternatively arrange to go see and friend for lunch and/or plan a day trip somewhere.

Happy Birthday 🥳

That's my thoughts too. Birthday or not I think it's unfair to take a day off and let your DH manage the kids while trying to work.

I'd enjoy your birthday with your children and book another day off while they're at childcare/school and enjoy a day off to yourself.

Happy birthday, you deserve a great one! Hope your day works out better than you anticipated.

Being generous for a brief moment, that was at best a thoughtless move on his part.
Try to tune out the negative energy but take
a little of your day planning your next birthday, which will either be as you meant for today to be (don’t say anything about booking the time off) or as a single woman whose DCs are spending the weekend with their father 😉

I know it’s your birthday but you were obviously expecting him to manage work plus children while sitting on your arse! I don’t blame him at all for going into the office so can actually get some work done

I love a day on my own.

But I think you need to do that when the kids are in school or where after they go after the break.

I wouldn’t expect to look after our kids while working if the other parent was off all day.

YABU

It doesn't make any sense for your DH to work and look after DC if you have the day off.

Maybe book a day's leave when the DC are at school so ypu can rest and recharge then instead.

How old are the children? You've said "little ones" so I'm assuming not teens? It's really not easy to wfh while also being the only adult looking after children in the house. And I don't think it's reasonable to expect him to do that while you have a day off.

But who would bee looking after the kids of you hadn't booked the day off work?

He is being practical, but obviously misunderstood your intention. He has to work and will get more done in the office seeing as you are at home. It would have been nice though to have been able to do something for lunch as a family.