Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Chat

Join the discussion and chat with other Mumsnetters about everyday life, relationships and parenting.

Is it time to drop this?

9 replies

Lilllypad11 · 04/03/2024 01:31

Before I even start this. Please go easy on me in the comments. My ex of 6 years cheated on me so I put my guard up really easily around men. Yes I have a therapist.

I’d gone on 4 dates with a guy. I honestly loved every date in person they’ve all been a vibe.

Before we even started talking or going on dates he said he was a bad texter and he works 8-8 pm. Fine. But I didn’t know how bad. It’s awful. So recently, it’s been worse and worse in the realm of replies the other day was 2-3 full days between.

Today I just made the decision to bin it off. The poor replies and lack of consistency just don’t do it for me. I came out a 6 year relationship after being cheated on and I’ve just come to a stage where I had enough and couldn’t tolerate his awful texting. Communication is super important to me. I haven’t said it to him via message but I truly think it should be common sense.

On thing I learned after my breakup is time goes so fast and I can’t be bothered to spend it on someone who barely even offers the bare minimum.

The sole reason I’m binning it off is the bad texting. Am I being unfair or within reason here?

OP posts:
Northernsouloldies · 04/03/2024 01:47

Personally I think if you like someone or just common courtesy,you get back to them long before two days have passed.

Lilllypad11 · 04/03/2024 01:55

Northernsouloldies · 04/03/2024 01:47

Personally I think if you like someone or just common courtesy,you get back to them long before two days have passed.

Exactly. I just decided I’m done with it. And yes he may have mentioned he was a bad texter. However , this is just crazy.

OP posts:
SheepAndSword · 04/03/2024 02:00

Yes I'd want more communication

Interested in this thread?

Then you might like threads about this subject:

ShrubRose · 04/03/2024 02:04

Lilllypad11 · 04/03/2024 01:55

Exactly. I just decided I’m done with it. And yes he may have mentioned he was a bad texter. However , this is just crazy.

Sounds you're using your instinct well on this one. I would walk away. It's also possible that he said he's a bad texter because he's running a few women at a time and he knows he's too busy to respond in a consistent way.

Fraaahnces · 04/03/2024 04:13

I’d be quite suspicious of his reasons for being a “bad texter”… probably married.

Olika · 04/03/2024 04:30

Just move on. No point of trying to understand this and that.

bottomsup12 · 04/03/2024 04:41

Bad texting is a perfectly fine reason to break up. Don't second guess yourself generally is my view trust yourself and your gut.

Bad texting is a rubbish excuse and means he doesn't think about you often enough to get in touch.

Also if you like more communication and he doesn't then it's a bad match and perfectly fine to break up.

More cynically bad texting usually means they are seeing so many women they don't have the capacity for you only or they have a gf or wife

Tighginn · 04/03/2024 04:51

I just landed a love bomber after two days of OLD chatting. Might play along until I get bored...fuck them all!

Thekormachameleon · 04/03/2024 05:11

You've done the right thing
I just started dating someone
He said he doesn't text full stop even showed me his brick of a phone to prove it - no apps, no socials, no texts

I said well I'm not a big talker on phones and don't always have time to have talk as I'm busy and work long shifts

Guess who's now texting, albeit badly - regularly

The old often trotted out line 'if they wanted to they will' is true

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread