Cheat

[Mylippy]

Has anyone stayed with a cheating partner and gotten over it

erm, it does not ever end well. single is the way forwards sadly.

I’m 57 seems hard to try again at this age so I’m trying forgiveness it’s hard

You can forgive but can you forget??? Or will it always be in the back of your mind?

I’m trying. I don’t want to lose my small kids for 50% of the time.
He is doing everything he can but I don’t see an end to the resentment at the moment, hopeful it might come with time.
Lots of counselling for me, him and the marriage.
It isn’t fun but I can leave at any time it feels too much or I change my mind for whatever reason.

How old are your children??? I'm sorry you are going through this.....it really does suck sometimes

It’s really hard I’m 6 years down the line and I still bring it up at times but tbh I think about it everyday it will never leave me and I will never trust him 💯 per cent again

Sorry you’re going through this OP. I couldn’t stomach it. I’d always and forever mistrust him.

DH knows that it’s one and done. No second chances with me.

It’s on my mind every day 6 years down the line

I never have trusted anyone 100% so I will never get to that.
It was a massive shock though and it has completely broken me as a person.
I have been a complete mess since finding out.

Are you happy? Even without the trust / memories?

I’m not as happy as I used to be but at 57 it’s hard to find love again is it worth the risk trying again or better the devil or maybe being alone forever

life is way too short to be sad x

I guess it depends on why...

Love
Sex/lust
Boredom
Revenge...

Op I would rather be on my own and happy (ish) than be with someone and be miserable. I'm 55 and have been single for over two years. Just can't be arsed with the whole dating scene anymore

I’m not miserable just not besotted with him like I used to be I would rather be with him than alone for sure

I think you are in a difficult place x sending you a virtual hug x