When should we tell in laws about pregnancy - poll

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DH’s parents will be out of the country while I am 12 weeks - 18 weeks pregnant. This is making things a bit tricky!

We are going to have a private scan and NIPT at 11 weeks. If the scan and NIPT comes back okay then we can’t decide whether it’s ‘safe’ to tell them in person before they go abroad.

Or, should we really wait until the NHS scan, which is the day after they fly, and tell them on FaceTime?

For context, this is a much waited for pregnancy and a bit of a miracle one after infertility. The whole family thought it was never going to happen!

I did tell people on the phone though. I don't really get the thing about needing to tell people stuff in person.

We told our parents first when we found out, I didn't want thr to hear from anyone else or need to remember who knew what so once they were told we weren't bothered who knew after that in what order

Tell them day they fly.

It should be the same for both sets of parents.

We told ours at around 20 weeks which is when I started to get a little bump.

I miscarried my first pregnancy and hated having to tell my folks. I’d rather have had nobody know, but that’s just my way of dealing with grief. If you can’t bear the thought of telling them that something has gone wrong and would rather no one knew, then wait.

I ended up waiting till 12weeks for the next pregnancy, my eldest child, and then a close family member’s struggle with infertility meant I waited till 18 weeks with my second child just trying to pluck up the courage to deal with the fallout, then found out they were pregnant just before I was going to tell them, then waited a few more days so they could enjoy the moment. It’s all a bit crazy how much headspace a simple announcement can take up!