Been asked out next week - do I go for it?

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I’m early 30s, got chatting to someone on a dating app and they’ve suggested we meet up next week. We live about 2 miles from each other.

I don’t think they’re looking for anything serious, I think more FWB, neither am I - but I haven’t a clue where to begin with this.

I’m a virgin. I’ve been on a couple of dates before, but it’s never gone anywhere and I’ve never been in a proper relationship. There’s reasons why.

I keep thinking of reasons why I shouldn’t meet up with this guy - what if he’s a creep? but then I think I should … I’m not sure.

I’m 95% convinced he thinks meeting up is going to end up with us sleeping together - we have been ‘chatting’ for a while... I do want to sleep with him, tbh…

Do I tell him I’ve never done this before? I’d love to meet him but I’m worried I’m being stupid and naive in thinking this is a safe thing to do.

I'd probably suggest a coffee date first in your circumstances?

If you like him meet up with him but I’d suggest a coffee date or dinner date in which you tell him you’ve got plans afterwards.
It’s okay to want fwb but id maybe meet him a few times before jumping into anything.

Be clear on your boundaries

watch what you drink and how you feel, drinks can be easily spiked

Know you can Ask for Angela' in any pub and the staff will help you

Of it feels 'off' trust your instinct, if you want to leave just go. No need to explain to him.

If you aren't ready to have sex with a stranger they don't, don't feel pressured into doing something because he bought you dinner or paid for the cinema

Its statistically probably perfectly safe.

But if you're inexperienced you may not spot red flags. Do you have a friend you can show some of your messages to?

If you want to have sex with him then thats absolutely great! Assuming he does too.

But make sure you're clear what sex means (ie what you will and won't do).

Its very easy to find a random man to have sex with so if this one gives you any cause for concern, just go back on the dating g app.

Remember he might hope for sex but lots probably majority of women don't do that so if you meet him but don't want to have sex you have in absolutely no sense done anything wrong!!!

Thanks, I think coffee or a meal’s probably best at first yeah.

I need to figure out what pub, the ones I’d usually go to are heaving on a Friday and it would be very easy to spike yes, that’s a bit what I’m worried about.

I’ll ask if we can take it slowly from meeting up, I don’t want to go back to his that night I don’t think. Not straight away.

So we are going out, but to the cinema/to get food first. I think sex is still on the cards but we’ve talked it through a bit and laid boundaries out a bit. He does seem lovely, have googled and his job/what he’s told me all checks out fine. Will see how we get on at the cinema and go from there. Tbh I’m nervous as hell but hopefully it’ll be OK!