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Can they prevent me leaving?

169 replies

LaurieFairyCake · 02/03/2024 10:18

I have to have a general anaesthetic and then be discharged the same day.

My partner can't come and get me.

Can I discharge myself. The nurse said 'they wouldn't let me leave unless I was with someone'

Anyone know?

OP posts:
SheepAndSword · 02/03/2024 18:17

neilyoungismyhero · 02/03/2024 18:10

Why on earth should they?

Like I said upthread they do sometimes - I don't know how OP is getting on at present or if she could take a taxi, she needs to speak to the staff

snowlady4 · 02/03/2024 18:18

Try to get someone to collect you.. you might feel dreadful. They do actually know what they're on about!- they might check pre-procedure if you have someone to collect you and if not, they might cancel you as they won't have a bed allocated to you. If you're letter tells you to have someone arranged, I think you should do that, if possible.
If you do manage to get the procedure, of course you can discharge yourself against medical advice- it's not a prison lol!

snowlady4 · 02/03/2024 18:22

Forgot to add... hope all goes well!

LordEmsworth · 02/03/2024 18:34

Kinneddar · 02/03/2024 17:18

🙄 Theyre not going to get denied health care ffs

They'll either let you wait until your friend/relative has finished their "job thing" for the day & can come for you or as pp said they'll keep you overnight

No need for the "FFS" 🙄

Previous posters said, the hospital will cancel the surgery. No "or...", just "they will cancel"

I would not be asking any of my friends to pick me up. I know they would, but I would feel terrible for asking, so I wouldn't ask. Just no.

No one said, they'll keep you overnight until @Destiny123 helpfully said so, all the posts said they'll just cancel. I was questioning that.

Flatleak · 02/03/2024 18:40

Jesús the hysteria, yes of course you can leave. Whenever I've had general I've been picked by someone waiting outside - they didn't let family members on the post op ward! So I just said eg 'yes my mums outside' and off I went.

Should you is a different matter, but yes you can

Trulyme · 02/03/2024 18:44

I’ve never had a GA but if you’ve got a partner at home, then I can’t see how him picking you up vs you getting your self home is much different.

I would probably try and get a taxi as it’s quicker and comfier but see how you feel on the day.

You could even go to the hospital cafe for an hour or 2 to make sure you’re feeling ok.

TheBayLady · 02/03/2024 18:45

You are being ridiculous, you cannot drive for at least 48 hours because you would be unsafe and getting a bus is downright bloody stupid.

lifebeginsaftercoffee · 02/03/2024 18:49

neilyoungismyhero · 02/03/2024 18:10

Why on earth should they?

Lots of hospitals provide patient transport.

Pictureframe1 · 02/03/2024 18:50

Lots of people seem to have different experiences. When I have had HA the nurse called DH when I was in recovery after my tea and biscuits and made him come in to the ward to collect
Same as when I collected my father recently after GA they called my mobile and said ready collect however was told to go to the ward, they wouldn’t let him go without seeing me

ThereIbledit · 02/03/2024 18:59

neilyoungismyhero · 02/03/2024 18:10

Why on earth should they?

... because hospitals do*, for all sorts of patients with all sorts of situations that mean they don't have anybody who can collect them. They also provide transport to the hospital for routine appointments, for people who can't get themselves there.

*at least they certainly used to. It's possible this has been scaled back in more recent years due to budget cuts and general pressure on the NHS - though the drivers are often volunteers.

anicecuppateaandayummyshortbreadbiscuit · 02/03/2024 19:04

You can ask for Patient Transport to take you too and from the hospital. They will probably get you there about an hour early and you may have to wait for an hour or two afterwards to be collected and taken home but it's all free.

Good luck with your op Op.

LaurieFairyCake · 02/03/2024 19:06

They've not told me I can't drive for 48 hours, I actually asked that as I'm driving the next day

She said if you wake up and feel fine it's fine.

OP posts:
anicecuppateaandayummyshortbreadbiscuit · 02/03/2024 19:11

LaurieFairyCake · 02/03/2024 19:06

They've not told me I can't drive for 48 hours, I actually asked that as I'm driving the next day

She said if you wake up and feel fine it's fine.

You'll still have the anaesthetic in your system and you'll probably feel achy and drowsy. You would be unsafe to drive imo.

Destiny123 · 02/03/2024 19:12

LaurieFairyCake · 02/03/2024 19:06

They've not told me I can't drive for 48 hours, I actually asked that as I'm driving the next day

She said if you wake up and feel fine it's fine.

That is just total ignorance from whoever was talking to you.. its illegal for 24h minimum. 24-48h depends on your health state. Ask your anaesthetist

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/general-anaesthesia/

https://www.rcoa.ac.uk/patients/patient-information-resources/patient-faqs#:~:text=Following%20any%20general%20anaesthetic%20or,get%20rid%20of%20these%20medicines.

Direct from the Royal college of anaesthetists

Can they prevent me leaving?
Destiny123 · 02/03/2024 19:16

Sorry by which means not on lots of painkillers, not drowsy, dizzy, nauseous, and almost pain free, as if you can't emergency stop then you're invalidating your insurance and if you crash are unlikely to be covered

Not sure what op op you're having but even at <48h it's risky

whynotwhatknot · 02/03/2024 19:19

no its not prison but not advised-you can sign someting saying youre going against advise ten leave

Horsemad · 02/03/2024 19:23

FionnulaTheCooler · 02/03/2024 13:22

This is a bad idea. After having a procedure done under sedation recently, my legs were so wobbly I could barely make it to the car park without physical support. No chance I could have walked for 20 minutes.

Same. I was so spaced out after my last GA, I couldn't walk straight - almost passed out when they let me go to the bathroom on the ward.
In fact, they were in two minds whether to keep me in overnight, even though my DH was collecting me.

WyrdyGrob · 02/03/2024 19:26

Another vote for the Medibus, patient transport service, or whatever equivalent operates in your area. It’s a step up from a service bus in terms of convenience and cost. But way cheaper and less convenient than a taxi.

TraitorsGate · 02/03/2024 19:27

whynotwhatknot · 02/03/2024 19:19

no its not prison but not advised-you can sign someting saying youre going against advise ten leave

You can only sign a disclaimer if you're mentally competent at the time which a lot of post op patients aren't

LivStanshall · 02/03/2024 19:50

I hope you don’t drive the day after an anaesthetic as you will be a liability on the roads. You aren’t even supposed to boil a kettle for 24 hours after one as your judgement will be impaired. You might ‘feel’ alright but it will still be in your system.

carbon60 · 02/03/2024 20:15

Yes you can get transport , but you will need someone with you for the next 24 hours. They will ring them to check.Most people are fine after a GA , but you won't be got to drive for 24 hours after.

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 03/03/2024 17:58

I've discharged myself before and taken a 20 minute walk to the station, hour on train plus another 30 minutes on the tube.

Obviously didn't leave straight after, so see how you felt before making a decision.

wasdarknowblond · 03/03/2024 18:00

For God’s sake if you have to leave the hospital, get a taxi home. You may well feel whoozy and disoriented - my DD was when I accompanied her home from hospital last week and she only had sedation.

Frances0911 · 03/03/2024 18:21

I used to work as a nurse in a private hospital in endoscopy, where patients were given sedation, normally Midazolam, and sometimes Morphine.

The rule was that if no one could collect you, you had to get a taxi. The patient would be told to go down to reception and ask for a taxi to be called, but no one actually escorted them down to the reception to make sure.

I do know for a fact that some used to say they were getting a taxi, but didn't, and went home by themselves on public transport. We even had one man who drove and left his car in a paid car park and said he was driving home. When I told him he couldn't he said he'd get a taxi, but I doubt he did.

Umbrella15 · 03/03/2024 18:46

RosesAndHellebores · 02/03/2024 11:24

It's an example of poor communication. The nurse should have explained the reasons why you can't leave and have then allowed you to make your own judgement providing you have capacity to do so.

How do you they didnt ?. Blame the nurses again, not always their fault