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DH wants me to pull DD out of club

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QuacketyQuack · 01/03/2024 11:58

Hi
Just need some opinions please. DD gymnastics, we were told she was selected to take part in a competition. I was a bit surprised as she's not really at competition stage yet. Anyway DD was really excited and happy. I then received an email saying that the coaches have changed their minds and she can now no longer take part because they don't feel she's ready. DD is upset. My DH wants me to pull her out as he thinks it's cruel. DD doesn't want to leave as she loves it. What would you do?

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Blabla81 · 01/03/2024 12:02

I’d accept what the coaches have decided and continue with her gymnastics as she enjoys it.
She will soon get over the upset. Just don’t make out it’s a big deal. Gymnastics is a sport that you and your daughter will have to become thick skinned in, at times. However it has so many positives it really is worth continuing. In my opinion.

Carsarelife · 01/03/2024 12:02

I would let DD stay and take no notice of DH. At least the coaches have told you they don't think she's ready rather than make her go through with it and she be upset as she doesn't do very well. I think it's good they've been totally honest with you. I get she's upset as it's a bit like dangling a carrot infront of a donkey e.g saying do you want to be in a comp then telling her sorry but you aren't ready

My DD goes gymnastics so I totally get how it is. I wouldn't pull her out just for this reason

pikkumyy77 · 01/03/2024 12:03

I think you should have a serious talk with the teachers/trainers to see what happened. Did they offer the competition as a way to make your family more invested in the sport and then withdraw it because the job was done? In other words were they deceptive in making ghe offer? Or did they suggest it because it eas appropriate and withdraw it correctly because they did not feel it was safe or appropriate for your child as it got closer to time? Do you want your child in competition at all?

Mrsjayy · 01/03/2024 12:08

I wonder if they say this to make kids a bit more competitive and she's really wasn't ready? I think with any competitive "sport/dance etc you will get this and I think it builds resilience and pulling her out over 1 upset really isn't great she and her dad needs to deal with it if she likes gymnastics, personally I'd be asking the coaches the ins and outs of competitions.

Mrsjayy · 01/03/2024 12:10

pikkumyy77 · 01/03/2024 12:03

I think you should have a serious talk with the teachers/trainers to see what happened. Did they offer the competition as a way to make your family more invested in the sport and then withdraw it because the job was done? In other words were they deceptive in making ghe offer? Or did they suggest it because it eas appropriate and withdraw it correctly because they did not feel it was safe or appropriate for your child as it got closer to time? Do you want your child in competition at all?

yes this was what I was trying to say.

bows101 · 01/03/2024 12:33

Honestly be relieved. DD x 2 were both put in competitions early on which seemed great. Until the costs, travelling across country all weekend, never ending! I felt it was a ploy to extract as much money from us as possible (they loved it, but they weren't the next champions 😂)

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QuacketyQuack · 02/03/2024 12:07

pikkumyy77 · 01/03/2024 12:03

I think you should have a serious talk with the teachers/trainers to see what happened. Did they offer the competition as a way to make your family more invested in the sport and then withdraw it because the job was done? In other words were they deceptive in making ghe offer? Or did they suggest it because it eas appropriate and withdraw it correctly because they did not feel it was safe or appropriate for your child as it got closer to time? Do you want your child in competition at all?

Well, the decision was made 2 weeks ago and in that time they rushed me to purchase the club tracksuit and trainers, which were expensive! So in 2 weeks I don't know what could have changed . I will speak to them and see what they say

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